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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 619039" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>You are right.</p><p></p><p>I am not in that place yet where I can see suffering with equanimity. I am beginning to see pain differently, am beginning to see it as the learning experience it is. Once that stage is complete, I may be able to stay in a stable place in the face of what happens.</p><p></p><p>I hope to get to that place.</p><p></p><p>Over time, I sense that I will. </p><p></p><p>For now, I am so deeply affected by the horror of it, each thing worse than the next, each requiring, now that I understand that I may be encouraging these horrible things somehow, a response I could not have imagined my self making. Because I see that detachment may end this cycle, because I see that my responses may be encouraging the terrible things in some way I don't understand, I am doing detachment the best I know how.</p><p></p><p>I can see that I have the power of interpretation. I just cannot see past the horror of what has happened to be in a place of acceptance.</p><p></p><p>On the question of when they are grown, I think that for those with addicted or mentally ill children, the answer is: When we are able to declare freedom from responsibility for them. </p><p></p><p>I agree wholeheartedly with your position.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 619039, member: 17461"] You are right. I am not in that place yet where I can see suffering with equanimity. I am beginning to see pain differently, am beginning to see it as the learning experience it is. Once that stage is complete, I may be able to stay in a stable place in the face of what happens. I hope to get to that place. Over time, I sense that I will. For now, I am so deeply affected by the horror of it, each thing worse than the next, each requiring, now that I understand that I may be encouraging these horrible things somehow, a response I could not have imagined my self making. Because I see that detachment may end this cycle, because I see that my responses may be encouraging the terrible things in some way I don't understand, I am doing detachment the best I know how. I can see that I have the power of interpretation. I just cannot see past the horror of what has happened to be in a place of acceptance. On the question of when they are grown, I think that for those with addicted or mentally ill children, the answer is: When we are able to declare freedom from responsibility for them. I agree wholeheartedly with your position. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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