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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 512681" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>The technique I'm talking about is called "validation". It's not your job to figure out why - it's your job to recognize the emotion. </p><p></p><p>Go back to my "scared" example. If you ask the child WHY they are scared - does it matter what the answer is? Chances are, regardless of what they tell you is scaring them , your next step will be to tell them why they do not have to be afraid...right? So you are trying to talk logic and reason about 'scared'.</p><p></p><p>It is the same thing with anger. You need to acknowledge the anger. It doesn't matter why. If she can tell you - great! But really, you just want her to admit that she is angry - and then you'll want to tell her that is OK to be angry.</p><p></p><p>It's a tough line to walk between "validating" her feelings are not letting her vent those feelings in a destructive way.</p><p></p><p>Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 512681, member: 6546"] The technique I'm talking about is called "validation". It's not your job to figure out why - it's your job to recognize the emotion. Go back to my "scared" example. If you ask the child WHY they are scared - does it matter what the answer is? Chances are, regardless of what they tell you is scaring them , your next step will be to tell them why they do not have to be afraid...right? So you are trying to talk logic and reason about 'scared'. It is the same thing with anger. You need to acknowledge the anger. It doesn't matter why. If she can tell you - great! But really, you just want her to admit that she is angry - and then you'll want to tell her that is OK to be angry. It's a tough line to walk between "validating" her feelings are not letting her vent those feelings in a destructive way. Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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