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<blockquote data-quote="lingal" data-source="post: 338178" data-attributes="member: 8871"><p>Thanks for the welcome ladies! Sorry it's taken so long but we have been a bit green.</p><p></p><p>To answer some of your questions, I love my husband, but there really isn't a parenting style. He tries but either gives in because he feels so guilty for coming and going or looses all patiences. Before he went on this deployment he would be home 8 weeks, gone 10. There was always some sort of adjustment period going on. We have pictures all over and a daddy doll, but it seems like when husband calls (phone or video) that really sets DS off.</p><p></p><p>As for DS transition is not in his vocabulary. We do a lot of warnings and countdowns. Sometimes he is wanting to get attention, especially from men, but I think that is just part of his dad being gone. The main behavior issue at this point is the anger. He yells, throws and kicks things, and has been known to hit and kick his teacher on occasion...mind you he would never do that to me. There are times he can feel it coming on and will say he is getting angry and remove himself or if you see he's starting to go in the wrong direction you can try to redirect him. And he will push you as far as he can. I tell people be extremely firm because if you give in once your done for. DS can be the most helpful, loving, caring little boy in the world, but when he sees red there is no bringing him back. </p><p></p><p>People have told me he's to young to diagnose or he's just a boy, but I know my son and there is something else going on up there and I wanted he looked at by a professional so his PCP referred us to an ADHD specialist. After the ADHD/ODD diagnosis we were given behavior therapy to do with him since he was so young to go on medications. He goes to a private preschool and that teacher is the one who brought up a sensory issue so we had him evaluated by the public school system. He now gets Occupational Therapist (OT) twice a week at the public school. They work on fine motor and relaxation techniques with him, not that they have ever seen him melt down. I am putting DS back in therapy starting in a couple weeks. At school he does great, but if it doesn't go his way or it's a task he doesn't want to do it can lead to a serious melt down. husband was always the kid who was sent on errands in school because he couldn't sit still, but was never labeled with anything. I have read The Explosive Child along with many other books! I hit a point where I just had to stop reading because I was getting overwhelmed and it was all starting to sound the same.</p><p></p><p>I hope that all made sense!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lingal, post: 338178, member: 8871"] Thanks for the welcome ladies! Sorry it's taken so long but we have been a bit green. To answer some of your questions, I love my husband, but there really isn't a parenting style. He tries but either gives in because he feels so guilty for coming and going or looses all patiences. Before he went on this deployment he would be home 8 weeks, gone 10. There was always some sort of adjustment period going on. We have pictures all over and a daddy doll, but it seems like when husband calls (phone or video) that really sets DS off. As for DS transition is not in his vocabulary. We do a lot of warnings and countdowns. Sometimes he is wanting to get attention, especially from men, but I think that is just part of his dad being gone. The main behavior issue at this point is the anger. He yells, throws and kicks things, and has been known to hit and kick his teacher on occasion...mind you he would never do that to me. There are times he can feel it coming on and will say he is getting angry and remove himself or if you see he's starting to go in the wrong direction you can try to redirect him. And he will push you as far as he can. I tell people be extremely firm because if you give in once your done for. DS can be the most helpful, loving, caring little boy in the world, but when he sees red there is no bringing him back. People have told me he's to young to diagnose or he's just a boy, but I know my son and there is something else going on up there and I wanted he looked at by a professional so his PCP referred us to an ADHD specialist. After the ADHD/ODD diagnosis we were given behavior therapy to do with him since he was so young to go on medications. He goes to a private preschool and that teacher is the one who brought up a sensory issue so we had him evaluated by the public school system. He now gets Occupational Therapist (OT) twice a week at the public school. They work on fine motor and relaxation techniques with him, not that they have ever seen him melt down. I am putting DS back in therapy starting in a couple weeks. At school he does great, but if it doesn't go his way or it's a task he doesn't want to do it can lead to a serious melt down. husband was always the kid who was sent on errands in school because he couldn't sit still, but was never labeled with anything. I have read The Explosive Child along with many other books! I hit a point where I just had to stop reading because I was getting overwhelmed and it was all starting to sound the same. I hope that all made sense! [/QUOTE]
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