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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 275685" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>When you say she's at about the level of a three year old - it would fit with what you describe. Delays in some areas can wash over into other areas.</p><p></p><p>The thing is, they are generally delays, not total and permanent inabilities. Hopefully with time and patience, she will get there. If her body (or brain) are simply not ready yet, you may have to leave it for a while. Maybe (especially while you're so stressed) step back to pre-training days and have some space (both of you) from the whole routine. All the ghastly weather won't have been helping; major changes in routine etc will really be disruptive to all of you and a difficult child is often more likely to be thrown out by it. Is she handling it without too much anxiety? I hear those storms were something fierce.</p><p></p><p>ALso, we can suggest things (such as getting her to clean her own undies) but YOU are the one on the spot, you know best as to what has a chance of working and what just won't do.</p><p>If you say it won't work, that's fair enough too. You know.</p><p></p><p>Her mum sounds like she's got denial down to an art form.</p><p></p><p>The wet ones are a good way to avoid showering all the time. We had a telephone shower attachment, I used to put the kid in the shower recess and use the telephone shower on them to 'hose tem down' but not in any shame sort of way. I would do the same thing for a sandy kid coming home form the beach, too. Washing is washing. A kid covered in mud from a productive session in the garden also needs hosing down, or bathing.</p><p></p><p>Have you tried bath bombs? I have a recipe for them, maybe you could make some with her. difficult child 3 loved bath bombs, they were the secret to getting him into the bath when he was resistant. I tended to seek out smaller bath bombs so we weren't spending a fortune and also using too much. He was happy with smaller ones anyway, they did the job just as well.</p><p></p><p>A place near us sells bath bombs with things in them like rose petals, glitter, lavender flowers, confetti - all sorts of fun stuff. You could use them for a reward, for getting her cooperation (without grumbling) through another day. I think your main focus at the moment needs to be on her state of mind and attitude, rather than actual success.</p><p>Not easy, when her mother's attitude undermines what you're trying to do.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there, stay dry...</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 275685, member: 1991"] When you say she's at about the level of a three year old - it would fit with what you describe. Delays in some areas can wash over into other areas. The thing is, they are generally delays, not total and permanent inabilities. Hopefully with time and patience, she will get there. If her body (or brain) are simply not ready yet, you may have to leave it for a while. Maybe (especially while you're so stressed) step back to pre-training days and have some space (both of you) from the whole routine. All the ghastly weather won't have been helping; major changes in routine etc will really be disruptive to all of you and a difficult child is often more likely to be thrown out by it. Is she handling it without too much anxiety? I hear those storms were something fierce. ALso, we can suggest things (such as getting her to clean her own undies) but YOU are the one on the spot, you know best as to what has a chance of working and what just won't do. If you say it won't work, that's fair enough too. You know. Her mum sounds like she's got denial down to an art form. The wet ones are a good way to avoid showering all the time. We had a telephone shower attachment, I used to put the kid in the shower recess and use the telephone shower on them to 'hose tem down' but not in any shame sort of way. I would do the same thing for a sandy kid coming home form the beach, too. Washing is washing. A kid covered in mud from a productive session in the garden also needs hosing down, or bathing. Have you tried bath bombs? I have a recipe for them, maybe you could make some with her. difficult child 3 loved bath bombs, they were the secret to getting him into the bath when he was resistant. I tended to seek out smaller bath bombs so we weren't spending a fortune and also using too much. He was happy with smaller ones anyway, they did the job just as well. A place near us sells bath bombs with things in them like rose petals, glitter, lavender flowers, confetti - all sorts of fun stuff. You could use them for a reward, for getting her cooperation (without grumbling) through another day. I think your main focus at the moment needs to be on her state of mind and attitude, rather than actual success. Not easy, when her mother's attitude undermines what you're trying to do. Hang in there, stay dry... Marg [/QUOTE]
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