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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 319748" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>With respect to the chores/room cleaning... I've found difficult child 2 (and difficult child 1 for that matter) gets easily overwhelmed with a task like that. And when a kid like this is overwhelmed, he either has a meltdown or just shuts down.</p><p> </p><p>They still need to learn how to organize stuff and be responsible for putting their things away. But until his mental state is more stable, he may need some help in managing tasks like that. What often helps is if you break the project down into very small parts, and have them just focus on one part at a time. For instance, you might tell him to only pick up the Bionicles on the floor and put them in this box. If that's too much, then break it down further to having him pick up 10 Bionicles and put them in the box. Don't ask him to think beyond that. Once that task is finished, praise him lavishly and then move on to the next phase. Maybe it's 10 more Bionicles. Maybe it's pick up the socks (not all the clothes, just one type) on the floor and put them in the hamper. It's an oversimplification of the task so that they aren't overwhelmed. </p><p> </p><p>And some days, you may have to just back off and let it go. He won't die of a messy room afterall.</p><p> </p><p>That's where the book "The Explosive Child" helps with tips for managing kids like this. You learn a new approach to dealing with them and in turn you are able to reduce a lot of the stress in your relationship.</p><p> </p><p>Hope tomorrow is better for him and that you can get through this phase of titrating the Risperdal quickly, and perhaps move on to the next level of his treatment. Don't be shocked if this takes a while to sort out. Mood stabilizers can take several weeks to take effect. Depakote takes about 6 weeks, but some only take two. It's definitely an exercise in patience! But then, you already know a lot about that!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 319748, member: 3444"] With respect to the chores/room cleaning... I've found difficult child 2 (and difficult child 1 for that matter) gets easily overwhelmed with a task like that. And when a kid like this is overwhelmed, he either has a meltdown or just shuts down. They still need to learn how to organize stuff and be responsible for putting their things away. But until his mental state is more stable, he may need some help in managing tasks like that. What often helps is if you break the project down into very small parts, and have them just focus on one part at a time. For instance, you might tell him to only pick up the Bionicles on the floor and put them in this box. If that's too much, then break it down further to having him pick up 10 Bionicles and put them in the box. Don't ask him to think beyond that. Once that task is finished, praise him lavishly and then move on to the next phase. Maybe it's 10 more Bionicles. Maybe it's pick up the socks (not all the clothes, just one type) on the floor and put them in the hamper. It's an oversimplification of the task so that they aren't overwhelmed. And some days, you may have to just back off and let it go. He won't die of a messy room afterall. That's where the book "The Explosive Child" helps with tips for managing kids like this. You learn a new approach to dealing with them and in turn you are able to reduce a lot of the stress in your relationship. Hope tomorrow is better for him and that you can get through this phase of titrating the Risperdal quickly, and perhaps move on to the next level of his treatment. Don't be shocked if this takes a while to sort out. Mood stabilizers can take several weeks to take effect. Depakote takes about 6 weeks, but some only take two. It's definitely an exercise in patience! But then, you already know a lot about that!!! [/QUOTE]
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