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<blockquote data-quote="ML" data-source="post: 334161"><p>I remember when my son manster, about 5 at the time took one of those. It showed I had a different boy at home than at preschool. He was shy and withdrawn and well behaved at daycare, too anxious to misbehave lol. At home he was he\\ on wheels. The second time he took a similar test he was about 8 and was misdiagnosed. I brought him in to test for Aspergers and the research facility told me he didn't have it. Now, at 11 there's no doubt in my mind that's what it is.</p><p></p><p>My point is that these tests are just one tool and only so useful. What they can do is guide you to certain possibilities. It's a good place to start and I'm glad you've begun the process of discovery. I just encourage you to be patient and hang out with us for a while, read the links about the various diagnosis and never discount your instincts. Many of us have been given initial inacurate diagnosis and even medicated our kids taking a professional's word and later wished we had "known what we know now".</p><p></p><p>Also, one thing I wished I'd done differently "if I'd known then what I know now" -- try to separate these issues and diagnosis from your beautiful boy. Whatever it turns out to be, these letters (ADD,AS,Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD),ODD,BiPolar (BP),Tourette's Syndrome,etc) do not define who he is. He is your beautiful son who may just happen to have a set of challenges you and he will learn about together. But always show unconditional love and acceptance of who he is and never let him think you think there is something "wrong" with him. I often wonder if my son's lack of confidence could have something to do with my fanatic search to find answers. I worry that my relentless quest to keep looking for answers when everyone else told me there was nothing wrong may have sent the message to manster that I didn't accept him the way he was. I even remember one day before we went to one of our doctor appointments, he was doing some Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) stuff with his food and I said to husband "he's blowing on his food, I have to remember to tell the doctor about that" and manster just melted down and cried "why mom, why do you have to tell the doctor I blow on my food. Even if you tell her, I'm still going to do it. Why can't you just accept me the way I am". This from an 8 year old at the time. It humbled me to the core.</p><p></p><p>I welcome you to our family and hope you'll find answers and friendship here like I have.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p></p><p>ML</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ML, post: 334161"] I remember when my son manster, about 5 at the time took one of those. It showed I had a different boy at home than at preschool. He was shy and withdrawn and well behaved at daycare, too anxious to misbehave lol. At home he was he\\ on wheels. The second time he took a similar test he was about 8 and was misdiagnosed. I brought him in to test for Aspergers and the research facility told me he didn't have it. Now, at 11 there's no doubt in my mind that's what it is. My point is that these tests are just one tool and only so useful. What they can do is guide you to certain possibilities. It's a good place to start and I'm glad you've begun the process of discovery. I just encourage you to be patient and hang out with us for a while, read the links about the various diagnosis and never discount your instincts. Many of us have been given initial inacurate diagnosis and even medicated our kids taking a professional's word and later wished we had "known what we know now". Also, one thing I wished I'd done differently "if I'd known then what I know now" -- try to separate these issues and diagnosis from your beautiful boy. Whatever it turns out to be, these letters (ADD,AS,Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD),ODD,BiPolar (BP),Tourette's Syndrome,etc) do not define who he is. He is your beautiful son who may just happen to have a set of challenges you and he will learn about together. But always show unconditional love and acceptance of who he is and never let him think you think there is something "wrong" with him. I often wonder if my son's lack of confidence could have something to do with my fanatic search to find answers. I worry that my relentless quest to keep looking for answers when everyone else told me there was nothing wrong may have sent the message to manster that I didn't accept him the way he was. I even remember one day before we went to one of our doctor appointments, he was doing some Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) stuff with his food and I said to husband "he's blowing on his food, I have to remember to tell the doctor about that" and manster just melted down and cried "why mom, why do you have to tell the doctor I blow on my food. Even if you tell her, I'm still going to do it. Why can't you just accept me the way I am". This from an 8 year old at the time. It humbled me to the core. I welcome you to our family and hope you'll find answers and friendship here like I have. Hugs, ML [/QUOTE]
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