what a mess! I can't see them charging a child with this since some say he touched her, others say he didn't. why was it okay for her to leap around teh bus to wrestle? both kids , the girl and difficult child should face consequence for inappropriate bus behaviour.
Has your son had any issues of touching in the past? Who started the rumors? Was it the girl or another rider on the bus? Obviously there is no criminal type case to be made since everybodies stories are different but if your son did NOT touch her inappropriatly that needs to be brought out CLEARLY. He has a right to not have that reputation and the fallout at school from it. I'm glad the school is listening. Keep a cool head in your meeting. Be sure to discuss with difficult child what happened tonight before this appointment. Let him know that he MUST tell you the truth. Please keep us updated. I would also ask for reasoning on how the kids are allowed to wrestle like this on the bus, even though your difficult child was involved, it was inappropriate and unsafe behaviour. I would focus the appointment on THAT and make it clear that rumors are just that, rumors and that your difficult child deserves to have his name cleared (if he didn't touch this girl that way). I would want both difficult child and the girl in the same room with a bunch of people to see who is looking fidgeting and telling truth vs. sticking to a made up story. Hopefully the girl will say that there was just wrestling. Perhaps even in wrestling a hand grazed a body part and it was not intentional or even known but some idiot kid started mouthing off that difficult child 'touched her". Quite possible!!!
*sigh* Best of luck! If this is all cleared I would ask the school to speak to the girls mother, make it clear that this is NOT what happened, and that this boy has a right to not have his reputation smeared. Sounds like it was just a bunch of kids who get along all being silly on a bus, meaning only problem was bus safety.
Crossing fingers for you!
