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Help!! 14 year old stepson with aspergers and some serious stealing fetishes
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 466370" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>in my opinion this is a sign of a pretty serious problem. For it to have gone on this long, and be from so many people that he is so close to, he needs some in-depth therapy with a professional who can help him through these problems. Kids with Asperger's often really don't understand why they do something. That coldness is one of the hardest things to handle, but is usually NOT done on purpose. They do NOT understand the social rules and the ones they do understand often only make sense to them. Taking the undergarments of the women so close to him would make me wonder if he understood the taboos on sexual contact of close relatives, and/or other sexual mores. This is NOT something that you can help him with. He NEEDS a top-notch professional so that this doesn't move up to more serious behaviors.</p><p></p><p>I could be that he really likes hte textures, women's undergarments do come in a wide variety of materials and men's just don't. Women's are also softer. If he has significant sensory issues, esp if they have not been treated, this might be part of it. He could also be struggling iwth gender identity issues. NONE of this is something that the family can handle. He NEEDS professional help. Urge your husband to get him into therapy with a TOP therapist and if he isn't seeing a psychiatrist that also might be a good thing. </p><p></p><p>While we didn't have this issue with my difficult child, medication was incredibly helpful with perseverating and obsessional behaviors, which are characteristic of Asperger's. It sounds like this might be part of that, which is why I suggest a psychiatrist and medication as well as a therapist. Medication can often help with obsessing on things, which someone with Asperger's truly cannot help much of the time. My son's obsessions were usually violent, which was one reason we sought a psychiatrist and medications after several therapists accomplished nothing but irritating us all.They were not bad tdocs, they just had no clue what to do with a child with Aspergers and much of their advice went totally against what my instincts said would help. Finding the RIGHT docs was crucial in helping all of us.</p><p></p><p>I know this is hard, and of course your mind jumps to the thought of sexual problems from him, and that may be true. But it also may be more sensory, or other htings. Without a good therapist and psychiatrist working together, you just won't know. </p><p></p><p>I do urge you and yoru husband to work on a Parent Report = it keeps all info about him in one place. The link in my signature will take you to an explanation of this and an outline to create one. It is a crucial tool in figuring out the problems and how to help him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 466370, member: 1233"] in my opinion this is a sign of a pretty serious problem. For it to have gone on this long, and be from so many people that he is so close to, he needs some in-depth therapy with a professional who can help him through these problems. Kids with Asperger's often really don't understand why they do something. That coldness is one of the hardest things to handle, but is usually NOT done on purpose. They do NOT understand the social rules and the ones they do understand often only make sense to them. Taking the undergarments of the women so close to him would make me wonder if he understood the taboos on sexual contact of close relatives, and/or other sexual mores. This is NOT something that you can help him with. He NEEDS a top-notch professional so that this doesn't move up to more serious behaviors. I could be that he really likes hte textures, women's undergarments do come in a wide variety of materials and men's just don't. Women's are also softer. If he has significant sensory issues, esp if they have not been treated, this might be part of it. He could also be struggling iwth gender identity issues. NONE of this is something that the family can handle. He NEEDS professional help. Urge your husband to get him into therapy with a TOP therapist and if he isn't seeing a psychiatrist that also might be a good thing. While we didn't have this issue with my difficult child, medication was incredibly helpful with perseverating and obsessional behaviors, which are characteristic of Asperger's. It sounds like this might be part of that, which is why I suggest a psychiatrist and medication as well as a therapist. Medication can often help with obsessing on things, which someone with Asperger's truly cannot help much of the time. My son's obsessions were usually violent, which was one reason we sought a psychiatrist and medications after several therapists accomplished nothing but irritating us all.They were not bad tdocs, they just had no clue what to do with a child with Aspergers and much of their advice went totally against what my instincts said would help. Finding the RIGHT docs was crucial in helping all of us. I know this is hard, and of course your mind jumps to the thought of sexual problems from him, and that may be true. But it also may be more sensory, or other htings. Without a good therapist and psychiatrist working together, you just won't know. I do urge you and yoru husband to work on a Parent Report = it keeps all info about him in one place. The link in my signature will take you to an explanation of this and an outline to create one. It is a crucial tool in figuring out the problems and how to help him. [/QUOTE]
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