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<blockquote data-quote="samsheather" data-source="post: 153967" data-attributes="member: 5255"><p>Adrianne - Thankyou. Those responses are great. Although I must say I have tried ones similar to those many times. I have found that the opposite happens. She then figures "Oh so mommy doesn't mind that I wet my pants. Cool." She then becomes so nonchelonat about having accidents and getting herself cleaned up ( and I use that phrase loosely) that sometimes she makes the effort to actually go to the restroom and other times she just wets herself and whatever it is that she's sitting on. As for natural consequences well. They seem to work at the time but she doesn't learn from them. Ie: She'll have an accident on a weekend right before she's about to go out to play. So I'll say " oh that's too bad kiddo. Someday when you can make it to the potty every time you'll be able to go out and play with friends". Now of course this sends her into such an angry fit that I usually send her to her bedroom. And once she's there behind closed doors she calms down. This (atleast in the past - I haven't been very good about it lately) works atleast for the day. But the next day we're back to square one. </p><p> </p><p>Have you ever heard of parenting classes called Love N Logic? They teach the same responses you've given. I have tried to react like that but it just never seems to work on her. We do point out when she's had a successful day. It's nothing to hear her scream through the house "Mooooomm I weeeennt Poooooopppp!" and the rest of us CHEEER Hooray!!! We do it on a much smaller scale too. I think I've narrowed it down to two scenarios - 1. I don't get mad I get even and 2. Straight up laziness. I have had her on an every 2 hour schedule for the past 2 months and with much success. The 2-3 times that she didn't make it over that period of time can be catagorized as above. </p><p> </p><p>Potty training is definatly her deal - the ball is in her court and she knows it. But we're dealing with something bigger. If she is ramotely tired than her ability to handle any sort of diappointment goes down the tubes. She starts out whiney and it escalates into shear violent anger. She claws at her face and arms and screams like someone is tearing off her toes. She has become very sneaky too. She hides things and takes things she knows she's not supposed to have. I have had to put locks on my office door as well as my bedroom door as she'll get into eith er playing on a computer she knows she's not to touch or finds permanant markes and paints on the walls. Or it's my bathroom where she gets into make or lotion and makes a mess with them. I've often compared some of her behavior as that of a 2 year old. And absolutely NO amount of descipline (no matter the kind) deters her. It's almost as if the temptation is too great to pass up it's right in front of her.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="samsheather, post: 153967, member: 5255"] Adrianne - Thankyou. Those responses are great. Although I must say I have tried ones similar to those many times. I have found that the opposite happens. She then figures "Oh so mommy doesn't mind that I wet my pants. Cool." She then becomes so nonchelonat about having accidents and getting herself cleaned up ( and I use that phrase loosely) that sometimes she makes the effort to actually go to the restroom and other times she just wets herself and whatever it is that she's sitting on. As for natural consequences well. They seem to work at the time but she doesn't learn from them. Ie: She'll have an accident on a weekend right before she's about to go out to play. So I'll say " oh that's too bad kiddo. Someday when you can make it to the potty every time you'll be able to go out and play with friends". Now of course this sends her into such an angry fit that I usually send her to her bedroom. And once she's there behind closed doors she calms down. This (atleast in the past - I haven't been very good about it lately) works atleast for the day. But the next day we're back to square one. Have you ever heard of parenting classes called Love N Logic? They teach the same responses you've given. I have tried to react like that but it just never seems to work on her. We do point out when she's had a successful day. It's nothing to hear her scream through the house "Mooooomm I weeeennt Poooooopppp!" and the rest of us CHEEER Hooray!!! We do it on a much smaller scale too. I think I've narrowed it down to two scenarios - 1. I don't get mad I get even and 2. Straight up laziness. I have had her on an every 2 hour schedule for the past 2 months and with much success. The 2-3 times that she didn't make it over that period of time can be catagorized as above. Potty training is definatly her deal - the ball is in her court and she knows it. But we're dealing with something bigger. If she is ramotely tired than her ability to handle any sort of diappointment goes down the tubes. She starts out whiney and it escalates into shear violent anger. She claws at her face and arms and screams like someone is tearing off her toes. She has become very sneaky too. She hides things and takes things she knows she's not supposed to have. I have had to put locks on my office door as well as my bedroom door as she'll get into eith er playing on a computer she knows she's not to touch or finds permanant markes and paints on the walls. Or it's my bathroom where she gets into make or lotion and makes a mess with them. I've often compared some of her behavior as that of a 2 year old. And absolutely NO amount of descipline (no matter the kind) deters her. It's almost as if the temptation is too great to pass up it's right in front of her. [/QUOTE]
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