Okay, I'm sure I am not the only one with a difficult child who told the most incredible stories ever.
I mean the stories are pointless and absolutely do not make sense. But, as I look back,
these stories were very much a warning sigh- DANGER Will Robinson!!! DANGER!!!
One story that a male neighbor (who wasn't gay) married another male in their driveway
two house down from us and that difficult child had to go down there and shoot off his gun because
he just wasn't tolerating it (difficult child does not have guns). Why this dumb story came up, I don't
know, but it did end with our neighbors, some friends, and finally nearly the whole school
district administration. Because even after the month long turmoil he continued the drama
when he wrote an additional amendment to the constitution- "no gay marriages", for his
ninth grade government final. All hell broke loose.
Looking back, I was fed a bunch of stories of "oh mom, I was just trying to be kool", or
"oh mom we were just teasing/joking". But deep down, it was a sign that he was having
a lot of trouble fitting it. He wasn't able to communicate with people very well due to a
speech and language delay. As the high school years came, most of his friends after he
was disqualified from sports were only in middle school. In high school, it was always him
who was the leader of the pack of minors who he encouraged to help him steal, deal, etc.
Now that he can go to the bars, his friends are now nearing 30. These kids have already
been through four years of college and are partying there lives away. But what does a 18yo
do with a group of 30 yo single men?
<skip that, I don't want to know>
backtracking to middle school we also heard the drama demon telling TALL tales of sexual
encounters. I sorta skipped that battle. But, he countered with online threats to another
boy at school, even after he told me he was only joking, and was suspended for two weeks.
Our computer was constantly slow due to the keylogger running for so many years.
I was grateful I chose to do so, because the other boy showed only "half" of the situation.
I also showed the texts and the computer chats and emails when the school and the
sheriff's department wanted to have a search warrant issued on our home address.
The other boy who's parents did have the search warrant, did have over $10,000
worth of "equipment". Both boys said they were just "fixing"/"trading" the stuff.
Nothing was broke though.
If I had to do it again, I'd discipline firmly in my case, based on the fact that the school
or law enforcement has the right to search and seize his phone/computer/etc at any time
(which later on really did happen several times). I'd discipline that "we" do not represent
ourselves as people who act/pretend/fake/joke about illegal activities, story/rumor/gossip
gloating, or anything of the likes. But I understand you, storytelling seems minor in a
"whole picture" view of a difficult child.
Also, for the life of me, I never saw drugs, money, or stolen goods in my home.
Because they were not there. But difficult child was using/dealing and stealing. THEY are
smarter than us, with the help of cell phones and computers of course.
I'd search his head to see why he feels he needs to "joke" like this..see?
Maybe redirect him towards some other activity or social group?
Good luck.