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Help don't know what I'm doing with my 'adult' child!
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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 414535" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Insofar as threats, if you really aren't ready to sell the car, today or tomorrow at the latest is the time to sit down and have a heart to heart. Tell him that you spoke in anger before and you'd prefer to discuss it rationally. You can't afford to make the payments on the insurance etc anymore, period. Does he want to get a job by 4/1, or should you be prepared to sell it? Make sure he knows it is his actions that make it his choice for your to sell the car. No drama, no engaging in fighting. If he wants to fight, go away. You're giving him a "yes" or "no" question, he needs to give a "yes" or "no" answer. Tell him this is how you deal with grown ups, and since he is 19 years old you are going to treat him like a grown up and expect him to deal with the consequences of his actions. I guarantee you, if he picks a fight with you or lies, you <em>will</em> be ready to sell the car and he'll know it wasn't an idle threat.</p><p></p><p>I never learned to drive until I was 26 and married. I walked or took the bus. I lived 7 miles from my high school, and 2 miles from my elementary school.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 414535, member: 99"] Insofar as threats, if you really aren't ready to sell the car, today or tomorrow at the latest is the time to sit down and have a heart to heart. Tell him that you spoke in anger before and you'd prefer to discuss it rationally. You can't afford to make the payments on the insurance etc anymore, period. Does he want to get a job by 4/1, or should you be prepared to sell it? Make sure he knows it is his actions that make it his choice for your to sell the car. No drama, no engaging in fighting. If he wants to fight, go away. You're giving him a "yes" or "no" question, he needs to give a "yes" or "no" answer. Tell him this is how you deal with grown ups, and since he is 19 years old you are going to treat him like a grown up and expect him to deal with the consequences of his actions. I guarantee you, if he picks a fight with you or lies, you [I]will[/I] be ready to sell the car and he'll know it wasn't an idle threat. I never learned to drive until I was 26 and married. I walked or took the bus. I lived 7 miles from my high school, and 2 miles from my elementary school. [/QUOTE]
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