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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 187460" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Welcome, karif. I have to tell you that reading your description of the violence you live with has taken me back a bit. You and your husband are incredibly wonderful to give this child a chance at a life. I can't imagine the amount of sacrifice, patience and determination you both must have.</p><p></p><p>The fact that he is three allows for a lot of possibilities and probably nothing too concrete. Chances are that behaviors will change with maturity. Some good and some bad. This is pretty much normal with all kids except that most of us have concentrated amount of difficult behavior. You seem to have 3 times what the majority of us deal with. </p><p></p><p>Getting the best opinions then second opinions is how most of us do our research. You will have to put it all together and with a health care professional helping devise a plan of treatment that probably will be intense behavior modification, medication, therapy and supportive in home services. </p><p></p><p>In the meantime, your other children and you need a safety plan that can be used to prevent a catostrophe. Your little guy should never be left alone with difficult child. He can't defend himself and needs you to have a plan ready when difficult child is in a state of aggitation or about to become violent. </p><p></p><p>Since you are still in the early phases, I suggest you start a parent report so that you can keep the info organized and clear. If you search through our archives you will find the examples and direction. It will be a great tool for you.</p><p></p><p>You have done an amazing job with this little guy thus far. I think SRL's suggestion of additional testing is very valid and would be the direction I would go. </p><p></p><p>Medication is an issue many of us suffer and struggle with. It was heartbreaking for me but my son would not been able to have any life without it. It's always a possibility that you can wean later as his behaviors are better controlled. If it helps him be less violent, it would be a good thing. Pills aren't a cure. Behavior modification isn't a cure. Therapy isn't a cure but all of those are tools to help our difficult child's get to the next level of functioning and maturity.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 187460, member: 3"] Welcome, karif. I have to tell you that reading your description of the violence you live with has taken me back a bit. You and your husband are incredibly wonderful to give this child a chance at a life. I can't imagine the amount of sacrifice, patience and determination you both must have. The fact that he is three allows for a lot of possibilities and probably nothing too concrete. Chances are that behaviors will change with maturity. Some good and some bad. This is pretty much normal with all kids except that most of us have concentrated amount of difficult behavior. You seem to have 3 times what the majority of us deal with. Getting the best opinions then second opinions is how most of us do our research. You will have to put it all together and with a health care professional helping devise a plan of treatment that probably will be intense behavior modification, medication, therapy and supportive in home services. In the meantime, your other children and you need a safety plan that can be used to prevent a catostrophe. Your little guy should never be left alone with difficult child. He can't defend himself and needs you to have a plan ready when difficult child is in a state of aggitation or about to become violent. Since you are still in the early phases, I suggest you start a parent report so that you can keep the info organized and clear. If you search through our archives you will find the examples and direction. It will be a great tool for you. You have done an amazing job with this little guy thus far. I think SRL's suggestion of additional testing is very valid and would be the direction I would go. Medication is an issue many of us suffer and struggle with. It was heartbreaking for me but my son would not been able to have any life without it. It's always a possibility that you can wean later as his behaviors are better controlled. If it helps him be less violent, it would be a good thing. Pills aren't a cure. Behavior modification isn't a cure. Therapy isn't a cure but all of those are tools to help our difficult child's get to the next level of functioning and maturity. [/QUOTE]
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