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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 619407" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>In agony, I am so sorry. That is a sad tale.</p><p></p><p>I think you need to press charges. I know how incredibly difficult it is to do, believe me, I am not saying that lightly. But, you are already raising your grandson.......you've now done enough.</p><p></p><p>You may want to read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post here. You may want to contact NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness, they can be accessed online and have chapters everywhere. They have excellent courses for parents which will provide you with resources, support, compassion, understanding and tools to guide you through this maze of detachment.</p><p></p><p>It is extremely important to get support for you. You have been at this for a long time and I'm sure you are emotionally depleted. You must take the focus off of your daughter and place in on yourself, your grandson and the rest of your family. It is vital to nurture and nourish yourself by amping up your self care with proper rest, healthy food, exercise, meditation if that works for you, in other words, take the best care of yourself that you possibly can.................this detaching from our kids is............agonizing.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes jail can be the safest place for some of our kids. Parents here have often said, "It's crazy, but I feel a level of peace when my adult child is in jail, he/she is safe, fed and warm. I know where they are. I can stop worrying." </p><p></p><p>You are absolutely powerless to change another. You did not cause this and you cannot control it. You needn't feel any guilt over something someone else has done to deserve the natural consequences their act warrants. All of us have to face the consequences of our behavior and our choices........even those of us who have 'disorders' or mental illness.</p><p></p><p>In my opinion, you and your sister should both press charges. It is out of your hands now.</p><p></p><p>Keep posting, it helps. Stay the course.........hang in there, we're here for you............you're not alone............wishing you peace of mind, you deserve that..........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 619407, member: 13542"] In agony, I am so sorry. That is a sad tale. I think you need to press charges. I know how incredibly difficult it is to do, believe me, I am not saying that lightly. But, you are already raising your grandson.......you've now done enough. You may want to read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post here. You may want to contact NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness, they can be accessed online and have chapters everywhere. They have excellent courses for parents which will provide you with resources, support, compassion, understanding and tools to guide you through this maze of detachment. It is extremely important to get support for you. You have been at this for a long time and I'm sure you are emotionally depleted. You must take the focus off of your daughter and place in on yourself, your grandson and the rest of your family. It is vital to nurture and nourish yourself by amping up your self care with proper rest, healthy food, exercise, meditation if that works for you, in other words, take the best care of yourself that you possibly can.................this detaching from our kids is............agonizing. Sometimes jail can be the safest place for some of our kids. Parents here have often said, "It's crazy, but I feel a level of peace when my adult child is in jail, he/she is safe, fed and warm. I know where they are. I can stop worrying." You are absolutely powerless to change another. You did not cause this and you cannot control it. You needn't feel any guilt over something someone else has done to deserve the natural consequences their act warrants. All of us have to face the consequences of our behavior and our choices........even those of us who have 'disorders' or mental illness. In my opinion, you and your sister should both press charges. It is out of your hands now. Keep posting, it helps. Stay the course.........hang in there, we're here for you............you're not alone............wishing you peace of mind, you deserve that.......... [/QUOTE]
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