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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 130442" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Hi! It sounds as if your son has you and his parents pulling for him to make a decent life for himself. I am sure that you (the family) have problem tried most things under the sun.</p><p> </p><p>The rules have changed for that young man. He is now 18. That means your sister is not REQUIRED to give him anything more than changed locks on their door. No clothes, no food, no house to sleep in.</p><p> </p><p>He may go to the pot smokers. But for how long if he has no $$ and no way to get $$?? Pot still costs $$, as does everything else in this world.</p><p> </p><p>Has your sis called the cops on PotDaddy? HE can go to jail for smoking pot too. </p><p> </p><p>I am quite sure your neph will be able to go from house to house for a while. But if he is as impaired by ADHD as you say, it won't be for very long. People will get tired of him mooching, no matter WHAT story he spins.</p><p> </p><p>MAny here have used the "Do to Get" philosophy. In order to Get anything, you have to DO something for us. </p><p> </p><p>Rehab is probably needed. In the experience of many here, if they are open with pot (or admitting to it) then they are probably doing a WHOLE LOT MORE.</p><p> </p><p>Just a question, how often do your sister brother in law refer to your nephew as disabled? Is that how he sees himself? I ask only because it never occurred to me to tell my son he was disabled, but I see you have mentioned it over andover in your post. I know you are worried sick, both about your sister and your nephew, so maybe that is it.</p><p> </p><p>The more disabled a person thinks they are, the less normal functioning they will expect of themself. There are ways he can cope with his ADHD, if he chooses. Our kids have to work WITH the medications, not expect the medications to do it all. (This was a big stumbling block for my son).</p><p> </p><p>I am glad you are here. Soon others will come along. They will have more advice and experience with this. </p><p> </p><p>Sending hugs,</p><p> </p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 130442, member: 1233"] Hi! It sounds as if your son has you and his parents pulling for him to make a decent life for himself. I am sure that you (the family) have problem tried most things under the sun. The rules have changed for that young man. He is now 18. That means your sister is not REQUIRED to give him anything more than changed locks on their door. No clothes, no food, no house to sleep in. He may go to the pot smokers. But for how long if he has no $$ and no way to get $$?? Pot still costs $$, as does everything else in this world. Has your sis called the cops on PotDaddy? HE can go to jail for smoking pot too. I am quite sure your neph will be able to go from house to house for a while. But if he is as impaired by ADHD as you say, it won't be for very long. People will get tired of him mooching, no matter WHAT story he spins. MAny here have used the "Do to Get" philosophy. In order to Get anything, you have to DO something for us. Rehab is probably needed. In the experience of many here, if they are open with pot (or admitting to it) then they are probably doing a WHOLE LOT MORE. Just a question, how often do your sister brother in law refer to your nephew as disabled? Is that how he sees himself? I ask only because it never occurred to me to tell my son he was disabled, but I see you have mentioned it over andover in your post. I know you are worried sick, both about your sister and your nephew, so maybe that is it. The more disabled a person thinks they are, the less normal functioning they will expect of themself. There are ways he can cope with his ADHD, if he chooses. Our kids have to work WITH the medications, not expect the medications to do it all. (This was a big stumbling block for my son). I am glad you are here. Soon others will come along. They will have more advice and experience with this. Sending hugs, Susie [/QUOTE]
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