difficult child is pleading to come home already! She was supposed to come home to see her gramma for her 85th birthday this Sat. Exh convinced me to allow her to stay over so I said okay after much discussion. NOW, tonight she tells me her plans. She will spend the day with us, and then go to a party Sat night, sleep over and come home at 10 on Sun and spend the rest of the day with us. I said no to the party, and now she is saying that I don't want her to come home. WTH? I know she is trying to manipulate everyone and anyone who will listen. I got so angry I had to sign off with her. Is it wrong, after only ONE week away, for me to try and stick to the plan? She stays there, comes home for grammas b'day and goes back? The thing is that exh doesn't have a clue and I sit on my end of the phone trying to convince him that A) difficult child and I are very close...in fact, perhaps too close, and B) she's manipulating him. I KNOW that she is only interested in coming home for the sole purpose of seeing the guy she is heavy like with and to go to the party...where there will most definitely be drinking and pot smoking. And her biodad told her that if she wasn't such a bad liar, none of this wouldn't have happened. Ugh. I miss her, I want her to come home. BUT ONLY if she's ready to be responsible, which she's not. She says she is, but what she really wants is to be in her own bed, with her creature comforts, her puppy and freedom. With her dad, its all new, she has no friends down there so for now, until she gets a job and a life, she is like a caged songbird. I get it, I know what that feels like, I remember it well from when I was her age. But what else am I supposed to do? After telling me how much she misses us, even gramma, and that she wants to come home soooo bad, later she tells me that I'm being unrealistic to believe that she will even be missed at the family party. Huh! Like I didn't see through her ruse anyway. I need strength. Wear is my armor?