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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 147929" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>My kids were the same way with one exception. They were in college or working and paid most of their own bills even while in school. I don't think it's abnormal, but I do think he's getting too much for doing too little. If you give him such low expectations (just go to Job Services, which *I* participated in myself), he's going to learn it's easy at home and he can do what he wants and not even treat you like you're his parents. I don't know how long it takes to go through Job Services where you're at, but I had to be tested and tried out on jobs and it kept me plenty busy. So what is he doing at Job Services?</p><p>If it were me, I'd expect more from him so that he doesn't have extremely low expectations of himself. I have an autistic son who is fourteen. I expect him to go to a two year teach school when he's eighteen, and I know he will. He's a hard worker. After that, we'll see if he needs services to help him out in life, but I feel it's very important to feel he's productive and busy or, in the end, he will feel useless and depressed. I think we sometimes lower our expectations of our kids to the point where they don't even try. I know you mean well, but this is just how I see it <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 147929, member: 1550"] My kids were the same way with one exception. They were in college or working and paid most of their own bills even while in school. I don't think it's abnormal, but I do think he's getting too much for doing too little. If you give him such low expectations (just go to Job Services, which *I* participated in myself), he's going to learn it's easy at home and he can do what he wants and not even treat you like you're his parents. I don't know how long it takes to go through Job Services where you're at, but I had to be tested and tried out on jobs and it kept me plenty busy. So what is he doing at Job Services? If it were me, I'd expect more from him so that he doesn't have extremely low expectations of himself. I have an autistic son who is fourteen. I expect him to go to a two year teach school when he's eighteen, and I know he will. He's a hard worker. After that, we'll see if he needs services to help him out in life, but I feel it's very important to feel he's productive and busy or, in the end, he will feel useless and depressed. I think we sometimes lower our expectations of our kids to the point where they don't even try. I know you mean well, but this is just how I see it :) [/QUOTE]
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