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<blockquote data-quote="Suz" data-source="post: 147953" data-attributes="member: 29"><p>I stopped reading the thread at this point because my heart stopped and I wanted to talk NOW.</p><p> </p><p>This is your <strong><em>old tape</em></strong> playing CAmom. Please don't let it start up again. YIKES, I felt like I was reading one of your posts from a year ago. You are waaaaaaaaaaaaay past it by now, aren't you?</p><p> </p><p>Guilt played a huge role in your behavior with and towards your difficult child in the old days; pleeeeeeeeeeeeeease don't let guilt play a role now.</p><p> </p><p>You can't make up for lost time.</p><p> </p><p>The best you can hope for is a positive future.</p><p> </p><p>But all of you have to participate....note, I said ALL of you....not just you and husband.</p><p> </p><p>You are not doing him-----or YOU----any favors by "letting him go do his thing rather than deal with his always very-obvious annoyance that he made the agreement to start with."</p><p> </p><p>By letting him off the hook you are teaching him that his word is not important. Is that the message you want to give him? Do you really want him to disrespect you like that?</p><p> </p><p>Of course you don't.....but that's exactly what you are doing.</p><p> </p><p>You are chickening out in order to keep peace but a momentary peace isn't worth the life lesson you are teaching him----that he can "guilt" people into getting his own way.</p><p> </p><p>So I will repeat...</p><p> </p><p>You can't make up for lost time.</p><p> </p><p>The best you can hope for is a positive future.</p><p> </p><p>Holy Moses, the kid has been out of placement for 8 months and he STILL isn't working? You have long since made up for any "guilt" by allowing that to take place.</p><p> </p><p>I have confidence that you know what to say. And you know that I'm tough but I also understand...</p><p> </p><p>You gave good, STRONG advice to Standswithcourage the other day. Now give yourself good, STRONG advice, too.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Suz</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Suz, post: 147953, member: 29"] I stopped reading the thread at this point because my heart stopped and I wanted to talk NOW. This is your [B][I]old tape[/I][/B] playing CAmom. Please don't let it start up again. YIKES, I felt like I was reading one of your posts from a year ago. You are waaaaaaaaaaaaay past it by now, aren't you? Guilt played a huge role in your behavior with and towards your difficult child in the old days; pleeeeeeeeeeeeeease don't let guilt play a role now. You can't make up for lost time. The best you can hope for is a positive future. But all of you have to participate....note, I said ALL of you....not just you and husband. You are not doing him-----or YOU----any favors by "letting him go do his thing rather than deal with his always very-obvious annoyance that he made the agreement to start with." By letting him off the hook you are teaching him that his word is not important. Is that the message you want to give him? Do you really want him to disrespect you like that? Of course you don't.....but that's exactly what you are doing. You are chickening out in order to keep peace but a momentary peace isn't worth the life lesson you are teaching him----that he can "guilt" people into getting his own way. So I will repeat... You can't make up for lost time. The best you can hope for is a positive future. Holy Moses, the kid has been out of placement for 8 months and he STILL isn't working? You have long since made up for any "guilt" by allowing that to take place. I have confidence that you know what to say. And you know that I'm tough but I also understand... You gave good, STRONG advice to Standswithcourage the other day. Now give yourself good, STRONG advice, too. Hugs, Suz [/QUOTE]
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