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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 444437" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Given his current attitude, I'd drop the invitation to move back home. I would not even consider it at this point. Maybe not even in the future depending on how things play out. I am anal retentive over respect. I demand it, I don't ask for it. Nor do I have any tolerance for disrespect, I don't give a flying fig what your age, which 2 yr old grandson Brandon is discovering when his temper gets the better of him and he attempts to hit Nana. I am very old school on this. But I also treat my kids with respect as well.</p><p></p><p>Sticking to you guns is the only way to handle this situation. You're doing great. It takes time for the whole you're not going to tolerate his behavior thing to sink in fully. It is NOT helping that this girl's parents are doing what they're doing. And honestly at her age I'd have to wonder what in hades their motives are. I dunno where you're from but parents around here that do such things are looking to get their girls pregnant and married off asap to get them out of the household.</p><p></p><p>He doesn't hate you. He hates your rules. He's 18 and feeling his oats, wanting to do as he pleases while still being treated like a child. He's yet to learn the adult world doesn't work that way. While adults appear to have all the freedom in the world.......they also have a ton of responsiblity and consequences for every decision they make, which means they really aren't as free as their kids believe they are. This too, takes a while to sink in.</p><p></p><p>While many may view your in laws reaction to him showing up as harsh.........ehh, not me. They have a right to their beliefs and they're sticking to them and backing you up. He just got a healthy taste of the real world there.</p><p></p><p>Meanwhile all you can do is wait and hope he comes to his senses before this girl gets pregnant. Although I'd be sorely tempted to call cps and ask them what the age of consent is and let them know what is going on in that household, letting them decide what is appropriate action to take or not take.</p><p></p><p>It's hard though to watch them making such poor decisions.</p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 444437, member: 84"] Given his current attitude, I'd drop the invitation to move back home. I would not even consider it at this point. Maybe not even in the future depending on how things play out. I am anal retentive over respect. I demand it, I don't ask for it. Nor do I have any tolerance for disrespect, I don't give a flying fig what your age, which 2 yr old grandson Brandon is discovering when his temper gets the better of him and he attempts to hit Nana. I am very old school on this. But I also treat my kids with respect as well. Sticking to you guns is the only way to handle this situation. You're doing great. It takes time for the whole you're not going to tolerate his behavior thing to sink in fully. It is NOT helping that this girl's parents are doing what they're doing. And honestly at her age I'd have to wonder what in hades their motives are. I dunno where you're from but parents around here that do such things are looking to get their girls pregnant and married off asap to get them out of the household. He doesn't hate you. He hates your rules. He's 18 and feeling his oats, wanting to do as he pleases while still being treated like a child. He's yet to learn the adult world doesn't work that way. While adults appear to have all the freedom in the world.......they also have a ton of responsiblity and consequences for every decision they make, which means they really aren't as free as their kids believe they are. This too, takes a while to sink in. While many may view your in laws reaction to him showing up as harsh.........ehh, not me. They have a right to their beliefs and they're sticking to them and backing you up. He just got a healthy taste of the real world there. Meanwhile all you can do is wait and hope he comes to his senses before this girl gets pregnant. Although I'd be sorely tempted to call cps and ask them what the age of consent is and let them know what is going on in that household, letting them decide what is appropriate action to take or not take. It's hard though to watch them making such poor decisions. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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