So....... I need some help parenting my easy child! I knew there were some great parents here that could offer some sound advice. My 19 yr. old easy child daughter still lives at home. She works and is going to college. She is a great kid, very responsible, and has truly never given us any trouble. The problem is curfew. What is a reasonable time for curfew for a young lady her age? Up until this point, it has been midnight and it has not ever been a problem. The last couple of weeks she has been hanging around a new friend. This girl is expanding my daughters horizons! That's not exactly a bad thing, as I realize that she needs to grow up and away from us. It began two weeks ago when my daughter came and asked me if she could go to a "club" with this friend. I was so naive, I thought she was asking to go to a country club!!!! Nope, it was a dance club. There is drinking there, but because she is under age, she is not allowed to purchase or drink alcohol while there. I gave my approval for her to go, along with my many apprehensions and cautions and encouragement to have fun. I did not tell her what time to come home. What a confusing time for me! I would prefer she didn't go to those places as a mother. I do remember being her age, all those exciting, fun, forbidden things to experience. I want her to experience life. I want her to live her life with adventure, with excitement, with joy. I want her to have it all, but I am so afraid for her. I want to protect her and make sure that nothing bad ever happens to her. I know this is not rational. I cannot protect her from life, nor should I. That first night she went out to the dance club with friends, she did not come home until 5 A.M.!!!! They did have about an hours drive to get home and then they also stopped to eat. Lordy! That time certainly doesn't work for me. The next night, she went out again. I told her not to come home at 5 am, but didn't give a specific time to be home. This time she came home at 3 am. That is still too late for me. Last night, she went out again. She and her friend had dates and they were going to eat dinner and go bowling. They had to wait for one of the guys to get off work at 10, so they did have a late start. My easy child didn't get home until 3:30am. I had told her that I wanted her to be home by 1 am. She said she would be. At 2am, I called her cell phone and growled at her, told her she needed to get home. We have never had any kind of accountability issues with her ever. Today we talked. I told her how irresponsible and inconsiderate she had been. I reminded her how nice it is to have parents that actually care about you, and care if you are late because maybe your car broke down or maybe something else bad had happened to you. I asked about the other girls she was going out with and what their parents thought about their late hours. Guess what, the other parents don't care. She said the girls tell her that as long as they are home by Monday all is well. We can't go there. So, what is a good rule of thumb for a 19 yr. olds curfew? I want to be reasonable and accommodating, but anything later than 3 am is too late for me. Also, give me some opinions on having friends over. This same easy child daughter is having her guy friend over tonight. There isn't an issue of going into the bedrooms or inappropriate behavior. We told her that he could stay until 1 am. We don't feel comfortable going to bed when the kids have friends over unless they are spending the night and we don't allow guys to spend the night here. We're a little narrow minded that way! We also realize that she could be living out on her own and coming home whenever she wanted and we would be none the wiser. Oh what a balancing act............. Any thoughts are appreciated.