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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 454525" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Bet you know what I'm going to say about "snarky", lol. Based on many years experience with the school system and various non-responsive teachers, although I completely understand your frustration, I think you need to approach it as "simply business". Think of the faculty and staff as a really small town enclosed community...no matter how large your school may be. They label parents and therefore their children as trouble makers very quickly. How do I know this? I have spent years and years as a leader in PTA's and PTO's. I've overheard many "inside" conversation about X's Mom being "hard to handle" "uninformed" "a difficult child" etc. because they like to deal with people who "play nice" and respect people who advocate on "fact based" criteria. in my humble opinion you need to assume that none of them have a sense of humor and they will "gather the wagons".</p><p></p><p>Keep it as close to professional as you can. Communicate by registered mail not email. State the specific concerns, how it relates to the IEP in place if you have one, and offer possible quickly implemented solutions. In your letter ask that you be contacted by a certain time...or request an emergency meeting because the tone set at the beginning of the year will determine difficult child's success for the whole school year. End it with a pleasant note like "I know that your goals for difficult child are his success. If we promply work together I am hopeful that this school year will be wonderful for us all." Something along those lines.</p><p></p><p>Now, lol, I have to tell you that I have written "proposed" letters over the years that have out snarked you. I really do understand and care. Hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 454525, member: 35"] Bet you know what I'm going to say about "snarky", lol. Based on many years experience with the school system and various non-responsive teachers, although I completely understand your frustration, I think you need to approach it as "simply business". Think of the faculty and staff as a really small town enclosed community...no matter how large your school may be. They label parents and therefore their children as trouble makers very quickly. How do I know this? I have spent years and years as a leader in PTA's and PTO's. I've overheard many "inside" conversation about X's Mom being "hard to handle" "uninformed" "a difficult child" etc. because they like to deal with people who "play nice" and respect people who advocate on "fact based" criteria. in my humble opinion you need to assume that none of them have a sense of humor and they will "gather the wagons". Keep it as close to professional as you can. Communicate by registered mail not email. State the specific concerns, how it relates to the IEP in place if you have one, and offer possible quickly implemented solutions. In your letter ask that you be contacted by a certain time...or request an emergency meeting because the tone set at the beginning of the year will determine difficult child's success for the whole school year. End it with a pleasant note like "I know that your goals for difficult child are his success. If we promply work together I am hopeful that this school year will be wonderful for us all." Something along those lines. Now, lol, I have to tell you that I have written "proposed" letters over the years that have out snarked you. I really do understand and care. Hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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