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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 454526" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Although I do like your sarcasm, I am afraid that it will only strengthen the wall that is being built higher between you and the school. Your points are all valid and true. Finding a more professional way of expressing your anger/frustration will get through to the school and keep that bridge open for teamwork. It does feel like they are starting to procrastinate in properly teaching J. I think many of us have found that if we can keep our emotions out of the communications as much as possible, the issues are heard better. Otherwise the school likes to down grade the importance of the issue and keep the focus on our anger "Angry Mom symdrome". Sarcasm is allowed (and I use it from time to time) but it has to be very subtle and make the school staff think. Has to be very carefully worded. Not many people can pull that one off on a full time schedule so keep it handy for your very last resort.</p><p></p><p>I would start by addressing the fact that "Mrs. A has stated nothing has changed. If this really is how she is feeling then it would be in the best interest of both her and J to address the issue ASAP. We can not wait a week! I am sure that I have identified a cause to this issue and would like to discuss some solutions with you. Once we come up with some options, the stress will be taken off both Mrs. A and J. Please contact me the morning of Monday, August 22nd with some times we can meet on that day or the next.(or list the dates/times you are available)." (I was very tempted to add, "both Mrs A, who is determined to allow J to receive zeros" but that most likely would build the wall again.)</p><p></p><p>Do not mention the changes you are seeing until the meeting. Any success you identify at this point will be an excuse for them to drag their feets again: "Oh, things are improving, let's wait and see, maybe we don't need to do anything." Then when things go bad, "Let's wait and see, sometimes things have a way of sorting themselves out." Focus on the fact that the TEACHER is saying there is no change which should be the school's cue to act NOW! and wait until the meeting to address the changes you have seen.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 454526, member: 5096"] Although I do like your sarcasm, I am afraid that it will only strengthen the wall that is being built higher between you and the school. Your points are all valid and true. Finding a more professional way of expressing your anger/frustration will get through to the school and keep that bridge open for teamwork. It does feel like they are starting to procrastinate in properly teaching J. I think many of us have found that if we can keep our emotions out of the communications as much as possible, the issues are heard better. Otherwise the school likes to down grade the importance of the issue and keep the focus on our anger "Angry Mom symdrome". Sarcasm is allowed (and I use it from time to time) but it has to be very subtle and make the school staff think. Has to be very carefully worded. Not many people can pull that one off on a full time schedule so keep it handy for your very last resort. I would start by addressing the fact that "Mrs. A has stated nothing has changed. If this really is how she is feeling then it would be in the best interest of both her and J to address the issue ASAP. We can not wait a week! I am sure that I have identified a cause to this issue and would like to discuss some solutions with you. Once we come up with some options, the stress will be taken off both Mrs. A and J. Please contact me the morning of Monday, August 22nd with some times we can meet on that day or the next.(or list the dates/times you are available)." (I was very tempted to add, "both Mrs A, who is determined to allow J to receive zeros" but that most likely would build the wall again.) Do not mention the changes you are seeing until the meeting. Any success you identify at this point will be an excuse for them to drag their feets again: "Oh, things are improving, let's wait and see, maybe we don't need to do anything." Then when things go bad, "Let's wait and see, sometimes things have a way of sorting themselves out." Focus on the fact that the TEACHER is saying there is no change which should be the school's cue to act NOW! and wait until the meeting to address the changes you have seen. [/QUOTE]
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