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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 320831" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Hi wen & welcome.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">My tweedles were abused in everyway possible (even in foster care) when they came to us at the age of 6. The moment they walked into our door the chaos started & has continued.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">I say that AND I will say there have been slow improvements - baby steps. I'm seeing in a very BIG way the attachment disorder in all the things you described. All the disturbing disgusting things your difficult child is using to keep you away - to push you away so she will not get close or let herself love you. She's learned basic caregivers hurt children & cannot trust them. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">You've been given soooo very much info here that I'd like to offer just a couple of things that we had to do with my tweedles:</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">1. Get the medications to where they need to be or you won't be able to work on the severe emotional issues your difficult child is dealing with.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">2. Get some serious mom/dad interventions in place. You & your husband will need time/space from your difficult child or you will lose yourselves in this illness. Are you being offered any in home services? I'd expect you'd be at the top of the list.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">3. Start with very small nurturing. I actually, at the age of 7, allowed the tweedles to have nooks; I'd would rock them each & every night to sleep. They had bottles, as necessary. This is extreme reparenting. I found an exceptional attachment/adoption specialist. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">4. You will need a team - a village to help you raise this child. Both kt & wm have a team of 13 each to help me raise them. That's 26 people & after 9 years we are seeing some amazing growth. It was the first 3 years or so when we tried to go it on our own that husband & I felt we were failing as a family.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Okay, I gave you 4 things to consider. Come to this board often & post often. Your difficult child is a, what I call "hurt" child & needs all the interventions she can get. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 320831, member: 393"] [SIZE=3][FONT=Comic Sans MS]Hi wen & welcome. My tweedles were abused in everyway possible (even in foster care) when they came to us at the age of 6. The moment they walked into our door the chaos started & has continued. I say that AND I will say there have been slow improvements - baby steps. I'm seeing in a very BIG way the attachment disorder in all the things you described. All the disturbing disgusting things your difficult child is using to keep you away - to push you away so she will not get close or let herself love you. She's learned basic caregivers hurt children & cannot trust them. You've been given soooo very much info here that I'd like to offer just a couple of things that we had to do with my tweedles: 1. Get the medications to where they need to be or you won't be able to work on the severe emotional issues your difficult child is dealing with. 2. Get some serious mom/dad interventions in place. You & your husband will need time/space from your difficult child or you will lose yourselves in this illness. Are you being offered any in home services? I'd expect you'd be at the top of the list. 3. Start with very small nurturing. I actually, at the age of 7, allowed the tweedles to have nooks; I'd would rock them each & every night to sleep. They had bottles, as necessary. This is extreme reparenting. I found an exceptional attachment/adoption specialist. 4. You will need a team - a village to help you raise this child. Both kt & wm have a team of 13 each to help me raise them. That's 26 people & after 9 years we are seeing some amazing growth. It was the first 3 years or so when we tried to go it on our own that husband & I felt we were failing as a family. Okay, I gave you 4 things to consider. Come to this board often & post often. Your difficult child is a, what I call "hurt" child & needs all the interventions she can get. [/FONT][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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