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<blockquote data-quote="rlsnights" data-source="post: 321047" data-attributes="member: 7948"><p>I think it was entirely appropriate for you to make it very clear to your husband where you stand on this. While I am sympathetic with his discomfort I too would come down on the side of separating rather than risk my own and my other children's lives/well-being. If you had described the incident with the steak knife before I would not have pulled my punches with my earlier posts. I would have said - she needs to be out of your house now.</p><p></p><p>If he is still resisting after reading our replies and hearing your concerns, I would take your other children out of school and go on a week long trip or just go stay in a motel. But you need to be out of touch for that time - as much as possible.</p><p></p><p>Tell him you want him to walk a week in your shoes and take the time off and care for Ann personally. There's nothing like direct, 24/7 experience with a problem to gain a new appreciation for the problem. If he "can't" do so then I would still leave and let him deal with the problem of finding other caregivers for her. No doubt those people will refuse to care for her very quickly. Maybe he needs that external validation of your experiences. I don't know.</p><p></p><p>If he objects you could say he needs to realize this is a dry run of what life will be like if you actually separate. Because you will leave if that's what it takes.</p><p></p><p>If he still refuses to find an out of home placement for Ann after caring for her for a week then I would send the other kids to live somewhere else temporarily starting today. Let all the professionals you are working with know that you are separating from your husband due to your concerns for the safety of your other children and yourself. Tell them that your husband will now be solely responsible for Ann's care. It's very important that you communicate your reasons for leaving to these people and I would do it both by phone and e-mail or snail mail.</p><p></p><p>Many hugs - hope your husband is able to come to grips with the danger this child represents and accepts the need to get her out of your home quickly.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rlsnights, post: 321047, member: 7948"] I think it was entirely appropriate for you to make it very clear to your husband where you stand on this. While I am sympathetic with his discomfort I too would come down on the side of separating rather than risk my own and my other children's lives/well-being. If you had described the incident with the steak knife before I would not have pulled my punches with my earlier posts. I would have said - she needs to be out of your house now. If he is still resisting after reading our replies and hearing your concerns, I would take your other children out of school and go on a week long trip or just go stay in a motel. But you need to be out of touch for that time - as much as possible. Tell him you want him to walk a week in your shoes and take the time off and care for Ann personally. There's nothing like direct, 24/7 experience with a problem to gain a new appreciation for the problem. If he "can't" do so then I would still leave and let him deal with the problem of finding other caregivers for her. No doubt those people will refuse to care for her very quickly. Maybe he needs that external validation of your experiences. I don't know. If he objects you could say he needs to realize this is a dry run of what life will be like if you actually separate. Because you will leave if that's what it takes. If he still refuses to find an out of home placement for Ann after caring for her for a week then I would send the other kids to live somewhere else temporarily starting today. Let all the professionals you are working with know that you are separating from your husband due to your concerns for the safety of your other children and yourself. Tell them that your husband will now be solely responsible for Ann's care. It's very important that you communicate your reasons for leaving to these people and I would do it both by phone and e-mail or snail mail. Many hugs - hope your husband is able to come to grips with the danger this child represents and accepts the need to get her out of your home quickly. [/QUOTE]
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