Help Please Before I Go Crazy

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by ericm, Jan 25, 2008.

  1. ericm

    ericm Going crazy

    Hello Everyone. Im New Here. I Have Been Looking Around The Web Looking For Anything That Can Help Me With My Youngest Son. He Has Been Seen At A Developmental Center And They Said He Has Odd. He Likes To Eight People, Bite, Argue, Kick, Hit, And Choke Me And Everyone Else Here At Home. They Say There Is Nothing They Can Put Him On But Thats Good I Guess. One Less Pill Going In Him. He Also Has Trouble Sleeping. They Had Put Him On Meletonin For That. But That Mad Him Think His Room His Haunted Or Something Because He Will Not Go Back In There And Cries When We Take Him Near The Room. I Have Run Out Of Ways To Punish Him For Being Bad. The Only Thing I Can Think Of Now Would Be To Hold Him On My Lap Every Minute Of The Day, And Thats Not Going To Happen. If Anyone Can Think Of Anything Please Let Me Know.
     
  2. SRL

    SRL Active Member

    Hi Eric, how old is your son? What kind of specialist saw him at the developmental center?
     
  3. ericm

    ericm Going crazy

    He Is 3. I Cant Remember Who Seen Him There. But They Are The Same Ones That Said My Oldest Had Autism.
     
  4. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    Does he have any unusual reactions or sensitivities to loud noises, bright lights, certain foods or clothing? Also, has he said he saw a ghost in his bedroom? Fear of monsters, etc is pretty common at this age or he may have had a visual hallucination or two along the way. What worked for us was to put up a sign that read "Monsters Keep Out", we had a nightly monster check to verify none had snuck in, and then I pointed out where each and every shadow was being cast from so it wasn't so scary.
     
  5. ericm

    ericm Going crazy

    No He Loves Love Music And Flashing Lights. He Never Said He Seen A Ghost, He Said There Was A Guy And A Lady In There And Then He Would Cry. I Asked Them What They Looked Like And He Wouldnt Tell Us. So We Asked What They Did To Scare Him And He Wouldnt Tell Us That Either. We Always Had A Hall Light On For Him When He Did Sleep In There. And There Was No Shadows At All That Went Into The Room. We Even Asked Him If We Got A Colored Light If That Would Make Him Feel Better. He Picked Out A Blue Party Bulb Lol. And He Still Wouldnt Go In There. The Doctor Told Us After We Told Them About What Has Been Going On That The Melitonin Does That Sometimes. I Wanted To Smack Em For Not Telling Us First.
     
  6. SRL

    SRL Active Member

    Reactions such as this to Melatonin are very rare so I'd suspect this is more of a 3 year old thing than a reaction to Melatonin. My son developed fears in his room and it turned out that the people and skeletons that he thought he was seeing were actually his clothes hanging up in his closet seen in the dim light.

    I'd lay low on trying to get him into the room for awhile--find another place for him to sleep and don't even talk about it or try and coax him.

    Did the developmental center recommend any services or developmental preschool?
     
  7. Hi My name is Margaret and I too am at my end of looking for help.I am raising my 9 year old granddaugther add,erbys , odd well friday I just told her I was sick and tired of punishong her I HAVE NOT ENJOYED HER FOR AWHILE AS WE CAN OUT GO ANYWHERE BECAUSE I AM ON GLASS BUT SHE IS ON AD medications A ANXIETY PILL AND A DIFFERENT SLEEPING PILL TRAZODONE 25 MGSONLY AS NEEDED .i FIND BEING AROUND A LOT OF PEOPLE (4 -6) REALLY SETS HER OFF S WIMMING CALMS HER SO i REWARD HER WITH THAT WHEN SHE EARNS IT WE GO TO THE Y AT 5AM INORDER TO BE ALONE IT SOTHES HER .AT TIMES I ASK HER TO JUST TALK TO ME AND TELL ME WHATS GOING ON AND A LOT OF THE TIME IT IS SOMETHING SIMPLE SHE JUST DOSE NOT KNOW HOW TO HANDLE.PLEASE SEE ANOTHER doctor THERE ARE medications AND OTHER THINGS THAT CAN HELP.JUST CLOSE THE ROOM IT IS NOT WORTH YOUR SANITY.LET HIM REST WHERE EVER AND YOU REST TOO.THAN IT WILL COME TO YOU WHAT TO DO .KEEP LOOKING YOU WILL FIND SOME HELP BECAUSE ITIS THERE .iAM PRAYING FOR YOU GIRL
     
  8. ericm

    ericm Going crazy

    We Dont Try His Room Anymore. We Have Moved His Bed Into Our Room. In Glad We Have A Big Enough Room For It. He Is Going Thru Behavior Theropy Now. Then Once A Week We Goto Family To See If Anything Has Changed Or Worked For Us Over The Week. My Oldest Son Has Trouble Sleeping Cuz Of His Autism And They Have Him On Clonidine. It Knocks Him Out Quick. Wonder If They Could Do That With The Youngest. I Feel Bad Trying To Get Doctors To Give My Son Pills Just To Sleep. I Would Be Ok If His Anger Was Just Under Control.
     
  9. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    Hi, eric. Any psychiatric problems on the family tree? Do you think it's possible he may be seeing or hearing things that aren't there which makes him afraid of his room? Any possibility he may have a higher functioning form of autism? I have a son who has Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified and I know that it is hereditary. in my opinion something's going on and I don't think he's being "bad" or needs punishing. ODD rarely stands by itself and in my opinion he also doesn't seem disobedient, just frightened and it's up to the professionals to find out what he's afraid of. Is it inside his own head? Is he Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) with the normal Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) fears? This is one scared little guy and I'd keep pushing until I knew what was causing it.
    I think for now it's a good idea to sate his fears by having his bed in your room, however I'd take him for a complete neuropsychologist evaluation, if he hasn't seen one yet. He's young, and it's very hard to diagnose such young kids, but maybe you can find out interventions that can help him cope. Is he in any sort of EI?
     
  10. Lulu

    Lulu New Member

    I'm sure you are at your wit's end. And it is awful seeing your kid so troubled. Let us know what you decide to do. These ladies have asked great questions and have great ideas. (I'm still very new to this.)
     
  11. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    I would strongly encourage you to keep looking for a diagnosis for what is behind these problems. There is a book called Love and Logic: Magic for Early Childhood that is great. It helps with lots of things, we have had much luck with it, and with changing OUR responses to things.

    The violence against others cannot be tolerated. Has anyone addressed the causes for this behavior? What do you do when he attacks or hurts someone?

    What kind of doctors/therapists/specialists have you seen? If they are telling you there is nothing to be done, go find another doctor. There is often something that can be done. At the very least have someone teach you how to do a therapeautic hold if his behavior is violent and he won't stop. PLEASE don't try this without being taught by professionals. It can cause major harm to you and/or your child.

    If possible, could you go tothe FAQ forum and follow the directions to create a profile? This helps us know what you are dealing with when we read/answer your posts. Also, sometimes the capitalization is distracting, or makes it hard to read.

    I am glad you found us!!!! But sorry you need us, if you understand.

    Hugs,

    Susie
     
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