Well, I've been having a lot of trouble with my 16 year old son, but thought we could hold it together until school started (dreaded that because then we deal with the battles of getting up and doing homework, etc). Wrap-around services (in-home counseling)started this past week, so again, I thought we could hold it together with this new help. Unfortunately, I was horribly wrong. My sons girlfriend of 8 months broke up with him two weeks ago and he's been going down hill since. Yesterday I had the urge to check his text messages and found out he's been smoking pot. He fessed up quickly, almost proudly, and said that he's been smoking everyday for three weeks. For the first time ever, he got violent and aggressive. We had the police here last night, after he threw furniture and punched holes in the walls, but by the time they got here, he calmed down so they left him here and said there's nothing we can do if/until he threatens to hurt himself or others. I was hoping he would be admitted to a psychiatric hospital, but there were no grounds. This morning he decided he didn't want to be here and was leaving for a few days, when he walked out I called the police and they brought him back. About 10 minutes after the police left, he started arguing with my husband and I and continued for at least an hour demanding to know why he can't just do what he wants and go where he wants (he promised he would not do any more drugs-yeah right, like I would believe him now)I continued to stay calm and told him he's grounded. When he started punching the cabinets, my husband stood in front of him and challenged my son to hit him instead. They fought/wrestled around for a few minutes, then my son got up and walked away, punching some doors and walls on his way to his room. When my son attacked my husband, I called the police again. They came and put him in handcuffs and took him to the Juvinile Detention Center. I don't know what to do next. Should I go to the hearing tomorrow? Should I let him sit and think about what he's doing? I have two smaller children both under three, so I've been told my son will not be able to come home until he's not a threat to himself or my family, but I don't know if that's ever going to happen??? And how will I know when he's no longer a threat?? Does anyone have any advice? I feel really lost here, NEVER thought this would ever happen!!!! My son is a good kid, but severely depressed and, I don't know what else, but this isn't him! Thanks to anyone who may be able to share their experiences.