Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Help why do they think Im the cause?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Matty's Mummy" data-source="post: 239817" data-attributes="member: 5222"><p>Thanks you all for helping me out with my online (real life) panic attack \.</p><p>Ok so I have slowed down even more from my last post lol, and even more so since reading your replys Marguerite. The kids are in bed so I have some time to reply though I dont quite know where to start lol</p><p></p><p><strong>SRL</strong></p><p></p><p>I didnt think he really fit the criteria.</p><p></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">Ours are really different but then in some ways the same,. Like I dotn have a thing about germs, the toilet, bathing, whistling, blowing into cups before I drink, I have never rubbed a spot on my head and lost hair. These are things my does. What we do, do the same is walk back and touch a part of the wall, he will return and step over crakes in the concrete I will think about it. </span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">Matt is actually not doing much in the way of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) right now, just a few things that are now part of just what he does (with no anxiety, he just does) 1, blowing into cup before drinking and only if someone drinks from it first (so we dont drink from his cup, well mostly) 2. He licks his hand or arm then blows on it, a few times then wants to wash that part of his arm / hand. 3.blow in his shoulder or some part of his body only while he is playing on the computer or watching TV or should I say lost in TV. 4. Hand flicking is still having and another thing its kind of a typical thing for kids to do but Ive seen kids with Autism do it as well. Just the way for no reason at all he will jump around shaking his hands and make silly sounds. I keep wondering about this.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">That is really about it, the only other thing he does at the moment is if he is upset (a sib has taken over the TV say) he will lock himself in his room or mine, calm and return or sit in the pram and pull the sunshade over himself. The Occupational Therapist (OT) said the pram thing is for deep pressure </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">Personally I really believe our Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)s are different. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></p><p></p><p>I never thougth about the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) in this way, I thought the anxiety was there or started because he was experiencing Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and didnt know what was happening, and now Im thinking that through its clear its the other way.</p><p>I forgot to consider what I couldn't see.</p><p>You see I thought he was having Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) stuf then he was breath holding.. Early stuff and that was Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and then he became anxious because he didnt understand why he wa blowing </p><p>Now reading how you put it, it makes much mro esence, that he was feeling anxious from the trauma in the hospital and from the pain, then developed the blowing as a way to cope then that because possibly Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) maybe not, maybe its just a stimulant</p><p>Or like my eldest had a tic. Hmmm (hope I have that right it makes more sense, Ive been really focused on it all being Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). And his Occupational Therapist (OT) didnt think so either but she couldnt explain a few things, like him doing flippy things with his hands, so I figured it was Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD).</p><p></p><p>Yes he used to do something that looked like he was playing invisible basket ball,. Every time we went shopping.</p><p></p><p>Thanks this is helping me so much, its clearer</p><p></p><p></p><p>Yeah a full on anxiety attack online, lol this is exactly how I was feeling.</p><p>And yes I think we will have to endure it, I knew it and that is why I didnt walk out.</p><p>She said to me, once I calmed down a bit, I thought you were going to walk out, I thought we had lost you I said no I need help with my son then she went on about how they have the most success with people that are driven by wanting help for others not them selves I didnt get what she was on about, my head was still spinning.</p><p>and Id like to understand what is happening to me more. but wish now I waited, but hen it all might turn out hey!</p><p>I just really want a top up/ My last visit with my psychiatrist he said I was right and could manage, I did really well for the first 2 years I still had all the information and our talks clear in my mind, so when things started I would call on this and it got me through. His wisdom mixed with mine, is slipping and I need some back. Im sure talking it out with him over a session or two is all I need to help me if it / when it starts again. I think this is what frustrates me, this is of cause separate to Matts stuff.</p><p></p><p>Hmm I dont know for sure I only knew of Community Health Services, so I hadnt questioned it.</p><p>I cant believe what they put you through. Surely with so much information around they could get something better in place then the current system.</p><p></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">True, like the religious stuff she asked me, how much I have told my children about Christianity. Which is nothing. Then I explained why, but I couldnt help think, she isnt believing anything I say. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">lucky though my easy child daughter 14yrs has spent time with one of the phycologist from there group, Tay had many sessions and I guess if she had religious **** like I do in my head it would have come out. Im sure the therapist will all talk and that is a good thing. Because Im sure my daughters therapist will set her straight. I truly think she is just running off on a tangent .</span></p><p></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">Yes true they cant, I hope. Reading how you put it how they do things it makes me more relaxed, Ill think of it as a process we have to endure lol</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">Makes me think of a movie I watched, true story child is stolen from the house, parents are first accused. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">What we are going through is nothing to that, the frustration of your child out there getting further and further away and no-one is looking cause they are pointing the finger at the parents. that is a nightmare. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">Though I believe laws in the USA at lease have changed when kids go missing they cant accuse the parents and have to act on finding kids first. So hopefully one day they will do this when parent asks for help for their kids like ours.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">Well good thing I never ran ha, what I felt like doing and still will do this. Is I needed the best there is in our country straight up, stuff going to straight out of Uni therapist.. At least if we had a team that know there stuff we would get the right diagnosis I wouldnt just go to another health clinic or Doctor, I want a team of the best. Well hopefully they will search this out for me when we get through the ****. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">I really dotn want to do the ****, I wish we could go straight to the top. We are going to be in Brisbane in April so if I can get an appointment then with someone I will, but still keep seeing these here as well. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></p><p></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">I wish you never said this, now Im going to keep thinking on it. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">The school has all this stuff in place for Matt starting Prep, because the special school I took Matthew to requested it. Then when he went great at school one of the Aides said to me, how they didnt need any of it and Matt was one of the few best kids then she said if the special school didnt send over, information about how he acted there, they would never have believed, it was possible, Matt could be how I said he could be. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">So now you say this, Im so grateful the special school has seen him, at his worst. </span></p><p></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">Good thing you said this cause knowing me Ill be slack and not follow though. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">I dont really have anyone that has been around that could say Matthew wasnt always like this. We left Brisbane when I was pregnant and really isolated since. My son with Ds, his therapists have been few and far between. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">We dont have a </span><span style="font-size: 12px">Health care Plan so I will follow this up. </span></p><p></p><p><strong>The teacher</strong></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">Lol well, after I posted today I picked Matty up from school </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">I asked the teacher when parents could start coming in to help.. It will be second term, I cant wait. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">Then I asked about how readers. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">She said they will start next week. I asked how will she assess, which level to start the children (um my child) on. Your not going to believe this, she said they will start with pitcher books and she will have activities we can do lol I oh please could he have reading books, he loves to read a book every night before be anyway she said NO, pitchers is enough at this age</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">Well the look on my face I honestly couldnt hind it, but I quickly thought its ok we will just keep reading home books no big deal the moment my thoughts were processed, she said Oh Matthew, that is right I listened to him read to me today and, yes he can read cant he? He can have reading books </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">ARRRHHhhh Im wondering if, yesterday go the better of her and she checked things out for herself today. Lol I had to tell my husband and we had a good laugh. Kinda seeing her asking Matthew to read to her. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">So I think that has taken care of its self. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">Thankyou for all your help on dealing with this the Doctors.. And the like </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">Now I just have to get a grip on my anxiety and not fall apart with there questions that will do me more harm .All I could think about was how me getting help was stuffing up Matty getting help. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">At the moment he is pretty good its just if anything big happens I worry he will go back to how he was. But then look at school he ahs coped great we have done a lot of work for this to happen though. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">I best get some sleep before the boys wake. Thanks everyone again, and for putting up with my panic totally freaking out .</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Matty's Mummy, post: 239817, member: 5222"] Thanks you all for helping me out with my online (real life) panic attack \. Ok so I have slowed down even more from my last post lol, and even more so since reading your replys Marguerite. The kids are in bed so I have some time to reply though I dont quite know where to start lol [B]SRL[/B] I didnt think he really fit the criteria. [SIZE=2]Ours are really different but then in some ways the same,. Like I dotn have a thing about germs, the toilet, bathing, whistling, blowing into cups before I drink, I have never rubbed a spot on my head and lost hair. These are things my does. What we do, do the same is walk back and touch a part of the wall, he will return and step over crakes in the concrete I will think about it. [/SIZE] [SIZE=2]Matt is actually not doing much in the way of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) right now, just a few things that are now part of just what he does (with no anxiety, he just does) 1, blowing into cup before drinking and only if someone drinks from it first (so we dont drink from his cup, well mostly) 2. He licks his hand or arm then blows on it, a few times then wants to wash that part of his arm / hand. 3.blow in his shoulder or some part of his body only while he is playing on the computer or watching TV or should I say lost in TV. 4. Hand flicking is still having and another thing its kind of a typical thing for kids to do but Ive seen kids with Autism do it as well. Just the way for no reason at all he will jump around shaking his hands and make silly sounds. I keep wondering about this. That is really about it, the only other thing he does at the moment is if he is upset (a sib has taken over the TV say) he will lock himself in his room or mine, calm and return or sit in the pram and pull the sunshade over himself. The Occupational Therapist (OT) said the pram thing is for deep pressure Personally I really believe our Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)s are different. [/SIZE] I never thougth about the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) in this way, I thought the anxiety was there or started because he was experiencing Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and didnt know what was happening, and now Im thinking that through its clear its the other way. I forgot to consider what I couldn't see. You see I thought he was having Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) stuf then he was breath holding.. Early stuff and that was Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and then he became anxious because he didnt understand why he wa blowing Now reading how you put it, it makes much mro esence, that he was feeling anxious from the trauma in the hospital and from the pain, then developed the blowing as a way to cope then that because possibly Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) maybe not, maybe its just a stimulant Or like my eldest had a tic. Hmmm (hope I have that right it makes more sense, Ive been really focused on it all being Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). And his Occupational Therapist (OT) didnt think so either but she couldnt explain a few things, like him doing flippy things with his hands, so I figured it was Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). Yes he used to do something that looked like he was playing invisible basket ball,. Every time we went shopping. Thanks this is helping me so much, its clearer Yeah a full on anxiety attack online, lol this is exactly how I was feeling. And yes I think we will have to endure it, I knew it and that is why I didnt walk out. She said to me, once I calmed down a bit, I thought you were going to walk out, I thought we had lost you I said no I need help with my son then she went on about how they have the most success with people that are driven by wanting help for others not them selves I didnt get what she was on about, my head was still spinning. and Id like to understand what is happening to me more. but wish now I waited, but hen it all might turn out hey! I just really want a top up/ My last visit with my psychiatrist he said I was right and could manage, I did really well for the first 2 years I still had all the information and our talks clear in my mind, so when things started I would call on this and it got me through. His wisdom mixed with mine, is slipping and I need some back. Im sure talking it out with him over a session or two is all I need to help me if it / when it starts again. I think this is what frustrates me, this is of cause separate to Matts stuff. Hmm I dont know for sure I only knew of Community Health Services, so I hadnt questioned it. I cant believe what they put you through. Surely with so much information around they could get something better in place then the current system. [SIZE=2]True, like the religious stuff she asked me, how much I have told my children about Christianity. Which is nothing. Then I explained why, but I couldnt help think, she isnt believing anything I say. lucky though my easy child daughter 14yrs has spent time with one of the phycologist from there group, Tay had many sessions and I guess if she had religious **** like I do in my head it would have come out. Im sure the therapist will all talk and that is a good thing. Because Im sure my daughters therapist will set her straight. I truly think she is just running off on a tangent .[/SIZE] [SIZE=2]Yes true they cant, I hope. Reading how you put it how they do things it makes me more relaxed, Ill think of it as a process we have to endure lol Makes me think of a movie I watched, true story child is stolen from the house, parents are first accused. What we are going through is nothing to that, the frustration of your child out there getting further and further away and no-one is looking cause they are pointing the finger at the parents. that is a nightmare. Though I believe laws in the USA at lease have changed when kids go missing they cant accuse the parents and have to act on finding kids first. So hopefully one day they will do this when parent asks for help for their kids like ours. Well good thing I never ran ha, what I felt like doing and still will do this. Is I needed the best there is in our country straight up, stuff going to straight out of Uni therapist.. At least if we had a team that know there stuff we would get the right diagnosis I wouldnt just go to another health clinic or Doctor, I want a team of the best. Well hopefully they will search this out for me when we get through the ****. I really dotn want to do the ****, I wish we could go straight to the top. We are going to be in Brisbane in April so if I can get an appointment then with someone I will, but still keep seeing these here as well. [/SIZE] [SIZE=2]I wish you never said this, now Im going to keep thinking on it. The school has all this stuff in place for Matt starting Prep, because the special school I took Matthew to requested it. Then when he went great at school one of the Aides said to me, how they didnt need any of it and Matt was one of the few best kids then she said if the special school didnt send over, information about how he acted there, they would never have believed, it was possible, Matt could be how I said he could be. So now you say this, Im so grateful the special school has seen him, at his worst. [/SIZE] [SIZE=2]Good thing you said this cause knowing me Ill be slack and not follow though. I dont really have anyone that has been around that could say Matthew wasnt always like this. We left Brisbane when I was pregnant and really isolated since. My son with Ds, his therapists have been few and far between. We dont have a [/SIZE][SIZE=3]Health care Plan so I will follow this up. [/SIZE] [B]The teacher[/B] [SIZE=2]Lol well, after I posted today I picked Matty up from school I asked the teacher when parents could start coming in to help.. It will be second term, I cant wait. Then I asked about how readers. She said they will start next week. I asked how will she assess, which level to start the children (um my child) on. Your not going to believe this, she said they will start with pitcher books and she will have activities we can do lol I oh please could he have reading books, he loves to read a book every night before be anyway she said NO, pitchers is enough at this age Well the look on my face I honestly couldnt hind it, but I quickly thought its ok we will just keep reading home books no big deal the moment my thoughts were processed, she said Oh Matthew, that is right I listened to him read to me today and, yes he can read cant he? He can have reading books ARRRHHhhh Im wondering if, yesterday go the better of her and she checked things out for herself today. Lol I had to tell my husband and we had a good laugh. Kinda seeing her asking Matthew to read to her. So I think that has taken care of its self. Thankyou for all your help on dealing with this the Doctors.. And the like Now I just have to get a grip on my anxiety and not fall apart with there questions that will do me more harm .All I could think about was how me getting help was stuffing up Matty getting help. At the moment he is pretty good its just if anything big happens I worry he will go back to how he was. But then look at school he ahs coped great we have done a lot of work for this to happen though. I best get some sleep before the boys wake. Thanks everyone again, and for putting up with my panic totally freaking out . [/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Help why do they think Im the cause?
Top