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<blockquote data-quote="therese005us" data-source="post: 278771" data-attributes="member: 7416"><p>Hi and welcome</p><p> </p><p>I agree with the 'choose your battles' advice. it works well with my DS19, and now and again, I use it with my DD11. I find myself responding to something trivial, or to a manipulation, and I pull up and think? "hey, I'm supposed to be in charge here and I'm negotiating?" Then calmly say, that's my decision, you have to live iwth it. No further discussion" and tune out!</p><p> </p><p>When DS was younger, he would follow me and keep arguing.... that was annoying. I don't remember how i dealt with it now, though one time , I actually went into another room and closed the door (it was probably the bathroom!)</p><p> </p><p>You do need to look at other counselling avenues too, even if you made enquiries for yourself on how to handle these situations. You are a brave woman to take this on... and I'm sure that with love and consistency, you will turn out a fine young man. But you can't do it alone, so come back and let us know how you're getting on. There are many wonderful ladies (and gentlemen) here with a host of experiences. WE're not experts, but sometimes,just talking it over helps, and we glean little ideas from each other. That's what support is all about.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="therese005us, post: 278771, member: 7416"] Hi and welcome I agree with the 'choose your battles' advice. it works well with my DS19, and now and again, I use it with my DD11. I find myself responding to something trivial, or to a manipulation, and I pull up and think? "hey, I'm supposed to be in charge here and I'm negotiating?" Then calmly say, that's my decision, you have to live iwth it. No further discussion" and tune out! When DS was younger, he would follow me and keep arguing.... that was annoying. I don't remember how i dealt with it now, though one time , I actually went into another room and closed the door (it was probably the bathroom!) You do need to look at other counselling avenues too, even if you made enquiries for yourself on how to handle these situations. You are a brave woman to take this on... and I'm sure that with love and consistency, you will turn out a fine young man. But you can't do it alone, so come back and let us know how you're getting on. There are many wonderful ladies (and gentlemen) here with a host of experiences. WE're not experts, but sometimes,just talking it over helps, and we glean little ideas from each other. That's what support is all about. [/QUOTE]
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