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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 515860" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>I hear that... the only thing that has ever worked for me for the aggression has been medications (clonidine, concerta being the ones that make a difference in that area), anti-depressants actually made him MORE aggressive so fair warning, that happens to some kids, lots of stories here, but for many others it has helped a ton. There are other groups of medications for kids who get aggressive plus anxiety.</p><p></p><p>The other thing that made a difference was literally what those books say to do in part anyway.... I worked hard to reduce the issues in the areas I could.... didn't make everything a huge hairy deal. I have home behavior people so he is OUT for three days per week and we could get along better. I have been slipping on that lately and the aggression and rage is increasing. I am going carefully through my list of issues with him and today I got my priorities better straightened out and other than one huge meltdown he did well...especially after the meltdown. Unlike a couple of days ago, I sorted thru it with him one thing at at time.....got him to get thru the next thirty minutes, then negotiated the next hour and then he made a ton of great choices and now I have this really great smelling (took a shower with the new shampoo he wanted) kid who is in bed and asleep after actual hugs! Trust me, this is not the way it always goes for me but I wanted you to know that it really can work sometimes. </p><p></p><p>Have you had a complete evaluation (neuropsychological) done? These psychs are able to look at behaviors, learning ability and strengths/weaknesses etc...and tie it to how the brain works and it helps to get at the underlying causes of these types of behaviors and anxieties etc.... it is much more thorough than a typical psychiatric or psychiatrist....(not saying they are not great for what they do...just for our kids we need a much broader picture taken of things)...</p><p></p><p>So they will look from a learning perspective, thinking perspective, mood perspective, etc... is it developmental, brain chemistry, etc....</p><p></p><p>(she is at an age where everything becomes much more intense,--- requirements for independence, academic and social language/communicaiton, social skills requirements, etc. She is at the age that many kids are identified with some kind of learning issue or developmental issue that flew under the radar because it may not be as obvious as a kid like mine. I had many students who between grades 3-5 really started to struggle in school. It is super common. Worth giving a bigger look-see.....</p><p></p><p>Many of us also do a full speech/language pathology and Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation (for sensory and motor) then give those results to the neuropsychologist so they can be incorporated into the big picture analysis. </p><p></p><p>Oh, by the way, I also bought the therapeutic companion book to the explosive child which goes into more detail (painfully so at times I admit) for working on building the skills that are needed. It is out there, maybe try the library before purchasing, I had a gift cert. and it is expensive.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 515860, member: 12886"] I hear that... the only thing that has ever worked for me for the aggression has been medications (clonidine, concerta being the ones that make a difference in that area), anti-depressants actually made him MORE aggressive so fair warning, that happens to some kids, lots of stories here, but for many others it has helped a ton. There are other groups of medications for kids who get aggressive plus anxiety. The other thing that made a difference was literally what those books say to do in part anyway.... I worked hard to reduce the issues in the areas I could.... didn't make everything a huge hairy deal. I have home behavior people so he is OUT for three days per week and we could get along better. I have been slipping on that lately and the aggression and rage is increasing. I am going carefully through my list of issues with him and today I got my priorities better straightened out and other than one huge meltdown he did well...especially after the meltdown. Unlike a couple of days ago, I sorted thru it with him one thing at at time.....got him to get thru the next thirty minutes, then negotiated the next hour and then he made a ton of great choices and now I have this really great smelling (took a shower with the new shampoo he wanted) kid who is in bed and asleep after actual hugs! Trust me, this is not the way it always goes for me but I wanted you to know that it really can work sometimes. Have you had a complete evaluation (neuropsychological) done? These psychs are able to look at behaviors, learning ability and strengths/weaknesses etc...and tie it to how the brain works and it helps to get at the underlying causes of these types of behaviors and anxieties etc.... it is much more thorough than a typical psychiatric or psychiatrist....(not saying they are not great for what they do...just for our kids we need a much broader picture taken of things)... So they will look from a learning perspective, thinking perspective, mood perspective, etc... is it developmental, brain chemistry, etc.... (she is at an age where everything becomes much more intense,--- requirements for independence, academic and social language/communicaiton, social skills requirements, etc. She is at the age that many kids are identified with some kind of learning issue or developmental issue that flew under the radar because it may not be as obvious as a kid like mine. I had many students who between grades 3-5 really started to struggle in school. It is super common. Worth giving a bigger look-see..... Many of us also do a full speech/language pathology and Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation (for sensory and motor) then give those results to the neuropsychologist so they can be incorporated into the big picture analysis. Oh, by the way, I also bought the therapeutic companion book to the explosive child which goes into more detail (painfully so at times I admit) for working on building the skills that are needed. It is out there, maybe try the library before purchasing, I had a gift cert. and it is expensive. [/QUOTE]
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