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<blockquote data-quote="Buglover" data-source="post: 515861" data-attributes="member: 14112"><p>My advice for you ( I am also just starting to figure out what is going on with my kiddo, who is 6) is this: sit down and write your daughters life story, include every bizarre behavior she has exibited and try to find a pattern to what may have triggered it. We could NOT figure out what was up with our daughter, who exhibited behaviors across the board from ADHD, ODD, Autism, even early bipolar signs ????? I mean I was so sick of trolling the internet trying to figure out how to FIX MY KID. Her pediatricians would say "some kids have tantrums at age 5" blah blah "some kids stop napping early" (uh, really? THAT early???? I was lucky to get a nap out of her at 10 months) blah blah "some kids wont eat much " blah blah blah blah. I had a stack of books up to my eyeballs that I had read and no matter what no diagnosis fit, and her pediatrician thought she was fine. Then one day we were in a public bathroom (very loud, tiled) and she refused to use the restroom. She stood in front of the sink with her hands clamped over her ears and refused to move her hands to wash them. There was another girl about 7 standing there watching and she said "Oh!!!! Does this bathroom HURT YOUR EARS????" and my daughter nodded her head and started crying. And THAT was how we figured out what was bothering my poor daughter, the noise! Her ears are so over-responsive that she literally melts down over sounds that most people think are normal. So your daughter (remember, kids have no way of knowing that they are not perceiving things correctly as they have nothing to compare it too) could have a sensory processing problem (tactile/auditory/visual, etc) that causes her to get extremely agitated, then she would act out. My own daughter will get so worked up she will run through the house screaming that we all hate her, etc. because she is so bothered by her own behavior. She also "holds it together" at school, which seems to be a very common theme on this forum. They let it all out at home, and its extremly difficult. It is VERY STRESSFUL and difficult on a family and the other kids involved. </p><p></p><p>So anyway, after writing out her whole history after that girl commented on her ears, we were able to figure out that most of the time when daughter has freaked out there has been a loud situation involved, or a transition where she may face loud noise. Does you child struggle with transitioning? This would mean the actual drive to school, the process of getting ready for school, a meltdown in the car on the way home from school or anywhere else. If they are anxious about something happening once they leave the house )which could very well happen) they can get very difficult.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Buglover, post: 515861, member: 14112"] My advice for you ( I am also just starting to figure out what is going on with my kiddo, who is 6) is this: sit down and write your daughters life story, include every bizarre behavior she has exibited and try to find a pattern to what may have triggered it. We could NOT figure out what was up with our daughter, who exhibited behaviors across the board from ADHD, ODD, Autism, even early bipolar signs ????? I mean I was so sick of trolling the internet trying to figure out how to FIX MY KID. Her pediatricians would say "some kids have tantrums at age 5" blah blah "some kids stop napping early" (uh, really? THAT early???? I was lucky to get a nap out of her at 10 months) blah blah "some kids wont eat much " blah blah blah blah. I had a stack of books up to my eyeballs that I had read and no matter what no diagnosis fit, and her pediatrician thought she was fine. Then one day we were in a public bathroom (very loud, tiled) and she refused to use the restroom. She stood in front of the sink with her hands clamped over her ears and refused to move her hands to wash them. There was another girl about 7 standing there watching and she said "Oh!!!! Does this bathroom HURT YOUR EARS????" and my daughter nodded her head and started crying. And THAT was how we figured out what was bothering my poor daughter, the noise! Her ears are so over-responsive that she literally melts down over sounds that most people think are normal. So your daughter (remember, kids have no way of knowing that they are not perceiving things correctly as they have nothing to compare it too) could have a sensory processing problem (tactile/auditory/visual, etc) that causes her to get extremely agitated, then she would act out. My own daughter will get so worked up she will run through the house screaming that we all hate her, etc. because she is so bothered by her own behavior. She also "holds it together" at school, which seems to be a very common theme on this forum. They let it all out at home, and its extremly difficult. It is VERY STRESSFUL and difficult on a family and the other kids involved. So anyway, after writing out her whole history after that girl commented on her ears, we were able to figure out that most of the time when daughter has freaked out there has been a loud situation involved, or a transition where she may face loud noise. Does you child struggle with transitioning? This would mean the actual drive to school, the process of getting ready for school, a meltdown in the car on the way home from school or anywhere else. If they are anxious about something happening once they leave the house )which could very well happen) they can get very difficult. [/QUOTE]
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