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<blockquote data-quote="LANELLY7" data-source="post: 515939" data-attributes="member: 14179"><p>Thank you so much to everyone for your thoughtful responses and support. LOTS of good stuff to think about. (In fact I had dreams about all your responses last night.)</p><p></p><p>Haven't had any Occupational Therapist (OT) or Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) evaluations done (had to look up the acronoyms - all so new to me!). Really haven't noticed any sensitivity to sounds, motor skill issues, etc., but I guess it's worth a try (all her development milestones were on target). The nuersopsych evaluation looks interesting, will also have to look into that - didn't even know that existed!</p><p></p><p>I never thought transisitions were a trigger, but after more thought, I guess they are. She doesn't want to stop doing things that....she doesn't want to stop doing! She doesn't like to be told no, she doesn't handle hearing no very well. She often tells us we're mean parents because we don't let her do what she wants to. And if we did, she would be happier. </p><p></p><p>Why the Prozac? I think because he's thinking anxiety/depression (although probably more anxiety). But, I was so overwhelmed in the meeting yesterday, I probably didn't ask all the right questions. I also think I didn't question Prozac, and was actually relieved when he mentioned it, because it is the one drug that I am familiar with and am not scared of. I think, as many of you hit on, one of my concerns about giving her medications is, what are we treating and is this the right medication? We think this, we think that, but we don't know anything!</p><p></p><p>Re: ingnoring her. It seems that everything escalates when we do. That is why I believe recently it has gotten worse. Laying on the floor kicking and screaming isn't getting our attention so she is getting desperate and trying to find things we can't ignore...like agitating the dog or ripping her sister's artwork. She gets a pleased smile on her face when she realizes I'm no longer ignoring her. </p><p></p><p><strong>I'm especially having a hard time when she's hitting me. Our therapist recommended restraining her, but it's EXHAUSTING for me - she's not so small anymore and gets even more physical when I try to hold her down. But, if I just take it (I do some blocking), she doesn't stop. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong></strong>Re: passive agressiveness - yes, I think that's what goes on with her friends at school. A friend recently told me that her daughter was turned off by mine when she was trying to talk to my daughter and my daughter intentionally ignored her by singing (she's in theater - singing is her absolute passion...and also a great tool to annoy people with - she does it to my younger daughter all the time). She also likes to push people's buttons. </p><p></p><p>Thank you again to everyone. My family is struggling so much right now, we're all scared and worried and confused and feel so helpless. Your ideas and support have been amazing!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LANELLY7, post: 515939, member: 14179"] Thank you so much to everyone for your thoughtful responses and support. LOTS of good stuff to think about. (In fact I had dreams about all your responses last night.) Haven't had any Occupational Therapist (OT) or Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) evaluations done (had to look up the acronoyms - all so new to me!). Really haven't noticed any sensitivity to sounds, motor skill issues, etc., but I guess it's worth a try (all her development milestones were on target). The nuersopsych evaluation looks interesting, will also have to look into that - didn't even know that existed! I never thought transisitions were a trigger, but after more thought, I guess they are. She doesn't want to stop doing things that....she doesn't want to stop doing! She doesn't like to be told no, she doesn't handle hearing no very well. She often tells us we're mean parents because we don't let her do what she wants to. And if we did, she would be happier. Why the Prozac? I think because he's thinking anxiety/depression (although probably more anxiety). But, I was so overwhelmed in the meeting yesterday, I probably didn't ask all the right questions. I also think I didn't question Prozac, and was actually relieved when he mentioned it, because it is the one drug that I am familiar with and am not scared of. I think, as many of you hit on, one of my concerns about giving her medications is, what are we treating and is this the right medication? We think this, we think that, but we don't know anything! Re: ingnoring her. It seems that everything escalates when we do. That is why I believe recently it has gotten worse. Laying on the floor kicking and screaming isn't getting our attention so she is getting desperate and trying to find things we can't ignore...like agitating the dog or ripping her sister's artwork. She gets a pleased smile on her face when she realizes I'm no longer ignoring her. [B]I'm especially having a hard time when she's hitting me. Our therapist recommended restraining her, but it's EXHAUSTING for me - she's not so small anymore and gets even more physical when I try to hold her down. But, if I just take it (I do some blocking), she doesn't stop. [/B]Re: passive agressiveness - yes, I think that's what goes on with her friends at school. A friend recently told me that her daughter was turned off by mine when she was trying to talk to my daughter and my daughter intentionally ignored her by singing (she's in theater - singing is her absolute passion...and also a great tool to annoy people with - she does it to my younger daughter all the time). She also likes to push people's buttons. Thank you again to everyone. My family is struggling so much right now, we're all scared and worried and confused and feel so helpless. Your ideas and support have been amazing! [/QUOTE]
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