Help with autistic teen behavior!

Marg's Man

Member
For example, here is a VERY common argument between me and difficult child:
Me: difficult child it’s bed time
difficult child: No it isn’t
Me: Yes it is, it’s past bed time
difficult child: (getting louder), no it isn’t, you’re lying to me, I don’t see a clock anywhere!
Me: (now angry because he called me a liar), I am NOT lying! It is bed time, stop messing around and hit it!
difficult child: You don’t tell me what to do!!
Me: The hell I don’t, I’m the mom here, you’re in my house, do what I told you and GET TO BED!
It used to sound very familiar here until we changed our handling of these situations.

As Marg has pointed out, the aim to keep him calm especially at bedtime. Who could sleep after a violent exchange like that? I know I can't and I had enough of them with our difficult child's to know I can't. Worse still THEY don't sleep because they're wound up and you the consequences of dealing with sleep deprivation (yours and his) the next day.

Let's run through your example. I am not going to say this is how we would have managed this scenario although it is what we aim at. I miss regularly, blame the Army and its disciplinarian ways, Marg helps me stay on point.

Me: difficult child it’s bed time
difficult child: No it isn’t
Me: Yes it is, it’s past bed time
difficult child: (getting louder), no it isn’t, you’re lying to me, I don’t see a clock anywhere!
Me: (now angry because he called me a liar), I am NOT lying! It is bed time, stop messing around and hit it!

At this point you should be keeping an even voice and answer with something like Please don't shout at me, I'm not shouting at you. There's the time (pointing at some time piece, even if you have to go and get it). It is bedtime.

difficult child: You don’t tell me what to do!!
Me: The hell I don’t, I’m the mom here, you’re in my house, do what I told you and GET TO BED!


This just what we have been saying is NOT the way to go. It is the kind of rigid discipline which is actually counter productive with these kids. Yes, you've been called liar, he is bucking you big time and he is shouting all of which kick the adrenaline through the roof just when you need him calm enough to go to sleep.

Have you (or anyone else) for that matter) considered what life would be like if everyone was truly equal? It is hard for you to take this abuse but these kids impose the ULTIMATE democracy. To their way of thinking EVERYONE is equal. If they are treated a certain way then they will treat that person the EXACT SAME WAY! Calm reasoned handling is more likely to be responded to with calm reasoned behaviour, shouting and raging also is responded to with shouting and raging.

This is not theory. It is my life.

Marg 'handles' difficult child 3 this way close on 100% of the time and she can get a lot more out of him than I can. I am far more mercurial and don't have as much practice as she does. At best I manage 55-60% and I am F-A-R more likely to come into conflict with him. Worse still, my object (to get him do whatever it is I wanted him to do) is either not done or done so poorly that it may as well not have been tried at all.

I truly understand how hard this approach is. It seems that you are letting him run amok. Run through the scenarios you give in your head but this time mentally substitute another adult you are trying to control. How far would you have got? In his calmer moments you explain that you will tolerat things from him that no one else will.

Like it or not; this is the approach that is most likely to work. Your ultimate aim is send a functioning person out into the big wide world where people will not tolerate his behaviour. Behave this way in the wrong places and he will end up in gaol or even worse.
 
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LadyM

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You are right, of course.

I have to get it through my mind that I am not backing down or letting him rule the roost, that instead I'm opting for a calmer option.

Let say it doesn't work one time and he is absolutely belligerent no matter how calm and un-authoritarian I am, then what?
 

Marguerite

Active Member
You gave good examples, LadyM. (husband let me sleep in this morning; plus he's up the other end of the house talking to difficult child 3, who also slept in - we often post close together).

As I interpret it, you just gave some examples of how things have been with you and your difficult child. It is very brave of you to do this, also very honest. Good for you. And yes, we do understand how hearing some of those responses from him kicks you into the "I can't tolerate this disrespect" mode.

You recognise this now when you're calm - that is really good. That tells me you will be able to make the changes.

What happens every time you snap back to old habits - it undermines your progress with him for a bit. How much and for how long is dependent on how smart he is intellectually and socially. As they get older and more socially capable (and despite the autism, they CAN learn social skills, they just need to be taught to socialise the way you would teach history, for example) you find progress seems to escalate in some areas. However, something else that can also happen, is they get to a certain age and feel more confident in themselves, and make a conscious decision to ALLOW some of their autistic traits to have free rein. Our daughter has done this (easy child 2/difficult child 2) now she's an adult living away from home, she has found ways in which she can 'get along' and still enjoy some of the freedom in herself that she values. This means that to some people she will seem odd perhaps, but in an intriguing way. Few people would see this as Asperger's but those who know it will recognise it ore than when she was a little younger. She used to hide it a lot more, now she doesn't. it's a "like me as I am" attitude. She wears tightly laced corsets and clothing styled from the Victorian era, mostly. She buys fairly standard off the shelf clothing but will modify it. Or she finds specialty costume shops. But because she has amazing style, she merely looks like a fashion design student. As for her Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) - those who visit her apartment will see it. But her husband has his own obsessions which dovetail neatly with hers. The pair of them make it work for themselves.

We (husband & I) don't worry about this in her, because she has learned just how much id acceptable and how much is going a bit too far. She keeps a lot of her individuality under wraps in the workplace, for example. She has learned a great deal in the last six months especially, on how to get along in the workplace even with work colleagues who seem unreasonable. Some hard lessons but she now has learned from it. She's 23 and still learning, now at a very complex level. I think her 'snapping back' to show more autistic traits, is part of her way of learning to cope. She can't hold it all in, so she has chosen what traits she can get away with, so she has more control over the rest.

But that is Asperger's. High-Functioning Autism (HFA) is different, tougher to deal with, harder work for you and definitely harder work for the person with autism. Also note - some people (including health professionals) will equate Asperger's with high-functioning autism. This is tricky because the goal posts are still moving. You need to have your own strong ideas on exactly where the boundaries are and where your child fits in, or the confusion can really mess with your head.

I just talked with husband - he came to tell me he'd posted and to discuss it with me. He hadn't realised that the examples you were giving were coming from you saying, "I realise I handled it the wrong way in these examples." So please read his responses in that light.

Which brings me to another point you may not have considered - where else in the family, do these traits appear?

We've often said, autism doesn't run in our family, it gallops. We were told years ago that where you have a kid on the spectrum in the family, you are much more likely to find traits at least, in another member of the family. In our family we have difficult child 3 with High-Functioning Autism (HFA); difficult child 1 with Asperger's; easy child 2/difficult child 2 diagnosed as having some Asperger's traits but not enough for a diagnosis (that doctor will not accept the presence of traits we see that he does not). easy child 2/difficult child 2 herself believes she has mild Asperger's. When we do the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) test with her on www.childbrain.com, she comes out as mild Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). She's gone through that questionnaire thoroughly, analysed the questions including the suggestions on exactly how to answer them accurately.

husband & I can look at one another, we look at our parents and other family members and we can see traits there also. Now the way Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) is being diagnosed is constantly changing. But you will also begin to see this, as you learn to understand your son - we have become very good at recognising autism and Asperger's wherever we go. We can see Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) traits in husband. In his father (who was a lovely, gentle man with a brilliance for creating something out of nothing, for adapting junk into workable ingenuity). In his mother maybe? In a couple of his cousins. I look at me and my family - I'm sure I have traits, I remember some things from my childhood where I know I behaved in ways that other people around me couldn't understand. I have a cousin who was a musical genius but a social misfit. He learned how to blend in, but in his later years he was a handful for his carer and his colleagues. He was a household name in classical music in the 50s & 60s but in his later years his career evaporated because of his increasingly bad behaviour - nobody had of course raised him in any kind of diagnosis, he was instead allowed to be eccentric because of his talent. Highly intelligent, extremely cloistered - he was a lot like the bloke in "Shine" but without the later obvious oddness in mannerisms. And so it goes.

If you look at yourself and your husband, as well as other kids, try to see if you can find something similar. It is no stigma if you do find it - we are all, each of us, a bundle of different things. Autism is seen as a lifelong disability. But that doesn't mean it has to be a handicap. And even a handicap doesn't mean you can't still win the race.

One hallmark of high-functioning autism and Asperger's is often a strong talent or high ability area. An Aussie researcher, Trevor Clarke, did a lot of work about 10-13 years ago (I'm remembering, we tried to get involved with difficult child 3 but just missed out because the books closed before we were able to let him know what we had) in using the high skill capabilities of the kid with autism, to help them learn how to adapt.

What you need to teach your son isn't how to switch off the autistic behaviours, because you never can. What you are needing to do, is teach him how to adapt. When difficult child 3 was 8 we were finally able to explain to him what autism was, and that he had autism. He simply had not had the capability to understand, earlier. By 8 years old he was beginning to realise he was different, and to resent it. He was increasingly angry with himself and everyone else, for not fitting the rules that he had in his head, of how things should be (because of course, it always has to be fair, doesn't it? IN their heads. What you have told us of your interactions with your son, tells me he has the same rules in his head - he is very much focussed on balancing what you do and say, with what he does and says).
So we told difficult child 3 about autism. We followed "Sixth Sense" lesson plan (it was used by the Aussie autism association, called Aspect) and also added a description from difficult child 3's own understanding of computers. we said that if we compare a printed document with its twin, we won't be able to work out, just by looking at the printout, which was written up on a Mac and which was written up on a easy child. But the operating instructions to each different computer type has to be very different. The detailed computer language that is the interface between the person typing, and the binary code in the computer, is very different in a Mac than a easy child.
And some people have Mac brains, others have easy child brains. It's just a matter of finding the correct programming language, in order to get the same output from either.

After learning and understanding this, some months later we were talking to difficult child 3 and he said out of the blue, "You know - I'm getting very good at pretending to be normal."

I think that says a great deal on what it is like inside their heads. They always feel like outsiders and know they are different. They also desperately want to belong, but have to really work at it. Sometimes it just seems too hard; other times they manage better. We have seen with our older kids, that they get better and better at it, and at other skills. Seeing our eldest gives us hope for our youngest. He makes good progress but we're too close and don't see the gradual changes. Other people do, and tell us.

Last year's school end, difficult child 3 got a major school award, a citizenship award. it was for always trying to do better, always trying to work with his teachers, for working with other students and helping them (on school study days - he's a correspondence student as are the other students). We were blown away by it. But it showed us independently how other people now value our lad.

And the exchanges you describe - oh boy, do we know them!

I'm hoping that you will find the way through for yourself and your son, and begin to see the same changes too.

You're off to a flying start.

See if you can get the book from the library, or have a look at the sticky on "Early Childhood" on the book, it might give you some advance ideas.

Marg
 

Marguerite

Active Member
Let say it doesn't work one time and he is absolutely belligerent no matter how calm and un-authoritarian I am, then what?

You walk away. Any point you're trying to make, absolutely will not get through his head while he is like this. After all, would it get through to you while you're angry? No, you walk away and later on when he is calmer, you can try to bring up the topic and calmly say, "let's talk about what happened." But this may trigger a return of the rage. You may just have to let that one slide, and try to handle it better next time. There WILL be a next time! And if there isn't, then maybe you got your point across better than you thought.

What you need to do is plan ahead. Set up with him, some strategies. Let him know you're trying to find a better way to work with him and you want his input. After all, he is old enough now to have a say. From here you are going to try to work as a team. This is not how other parents do it, but how other parents do it may not be right for him.
Explosive Child outlines how to set it up ahead of time and also how to work through a confrontation. Much of the time you need to avoid confrontations. You take note of what sets him off (also what sets you off!) and do your utmost to never engage in a battle you know you won't win. Actually, the battle analogy is no longer a good one; this is not a war of you against him. Or it shouldn't be. This from here must be you and him as a team. Or you and him and husband as a team. He has to change his attitude to you as obstacle, and see you as facilitator. And you can't make him change his attitude; you have to change your response to him so he begins to only see you in light of facilitator. The obstacle has to be gone.

The trouble is, we are raised ourselves, to see the parent as the figurehead and person to pay attention to. it's the inequality thing again. These kids just aren't wired tat way. I think because it is just too socially complex. Equality, which society champions and actively teaches, is not the reality when we are children. However, it is much more the reality when we are adults. This is also why our Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) kids do better as they reach adulthood - the way they respond is far more appropriate if it was coming from an adult.

If the conflict is over his bedtime (when really, you can't walk away because then he gets to stay up later and you don't want those consequences) then first of all, you try to avoid going too far down that road in the first place.
"Son, it's bedtime."
"No, it isn't!"
STOP! At this point, you are about to fall into the very childish "tis/tisn't" routine which is mutually unwinnable.
So instead, derail the argument. Turn it back towards him.
"OK, son, when do you think your bedtime is?"
"I don't have to go to bed until 9 pm!"
"So, son, what time is it now?"
"Its - it's - OK, it's ten past nine. But it doesn't feel like it! It's not fair, where did the time go?"
"I know, son, it happens to me too. Time does seem to fly sometimes. But you can see that it is a bit past your bedtime. So what are your intentions?"

Never forget to use - he is a rule follower already, even if you find it hard to believe. He will feel uncomfortable if he tries to buck the rules in his head.

It takes time and the first time you do this, he will look suspiciously at you. As difficult child 3 has said to me, "Who are you and what have you done with my mother?"

Interestingly, difficult child 3 just wandered in (wanting to register his new iPod shuffle we gave him for his 16th birthday today). I told him I was posting about a boy who was a lot like him, but whose mother was still trying to be the sort of parent she had been taught to be. His instant reaction was, "She needs to understand that a parent can't abuse their position and try to be the person in power, it's just wrong to do that."
I answered, "Son, that is how we are all taught to be parents. It is how I was raised, it is how your father was raised. Think about when Grandma is talking to dad - she still treats him that way and tells him what to do. That is normal. The way I do things is not the way most people do things."

He still doesn't get it - he feels entitled to be parented the way we do it (now) because it works for him. Not because he gets his own way (although some people might think he does - trust me, I get a lot of what I want from him, although I don't push where I know I have little chance of success, yet). But because he does not feel out of control. He knows he has a say and can discuss things. Sometimes it seems like arguing, but he has to learn how to argue the right way anyway.

Some time ago we realised, he was never going to have to learn to get along in a room full of children, as a child himself. We have removed him from that situation permanently. We all graduate out of this situation, so if it becomes too difficult for him to learn it, then don't sweat it. Follow through on the equality and teach him how to interact as an adult should, even if he is not yet an adult. He will need THAT technique for far longer in his life.

My difficult child 3 still doesn't understand the way it should happen in other families. He only understands how it happens in ours. And he only understands that, as far as he can. He's still a long way from cooked.

But he's good at pretending to be normal.

Marg
 

TerryJ2

Well-Known Member
LOL!!! Ohh, yeah!

Me: difficult child it's bed time
difficult child: No it isn't
Me: Yes it is, it's past bed time
difficult child: (getting louder), no it isn't, you're lying to me, I don't see a clock anywhere!
Me: (now angry because he called me a liar), I am NOT lying! It is bed time, stop messing around and hit it!
difficult child: You don't tell me what to do!!
Me: The hell I don't, I'm the mom here, you're in my house, do what I told you and GET TO BED!

Now, we give our son a 1/2 hr warning, 15 min warning, 10, 5, etc. I used to say, "Are you STILL playing? You're supposed to go to bed!" and of course, he'd get mad. Now I ask, "Are you saving the score?"
It helps to know what it is he's playing so I can ask a very specific question, then tailor it to MY needs, i.e. saving the score means he's ready to turn off the game.

I love the, "I don't see a clock anywhere," comment. It's actually funny now, but you are too much in the thick of it to see it. That is SO much the way they think!

I have actually taken a clock and shown it to my difficult child. He will disagree, and I'll tell him to lean forward and check the microwave clock. At some point, he just has to give in.
The key is to do it in a calm voice.

No easy task!

Also, you must be consistent. If you changed the time one night because it was summer vacation, you must make clear that was summer vacation and has nothing to do with-what you're doing now. Sometimes a weekly reminder is all you need. "Remember, it's the school year and our bedtime is always 9:00 (or whatever it is)."

P.S. ...about the lying thing. Have you seen the movie, ADAM? Rent it. It's got a great scene about lying, comparing what we NT's consider a white lie with-a huge event in the movie that is a crime based on a lie. Great stuff.
 

Marguerite

Active Member
Another thing to watch out for (TV-wise) is the British sitcom, "The IT Crowd". It's I.T., not "it". It's a half-hour sitcom series set in the IT department of a company. The two IT techs are fairly useless when it comes to people skills. They are both quite different though. One is simply socially inept probably due to being too focused on computers and gaming. The other is definitely Aspie. The third staffmember is their boss (technically) who is there as the human interface, the people skills person. Like a translator. The humour isn't always about the social skills issues of the Aspie/lite stuff, but there's enough of it there to really give you the giggles. difficult child 3 loves this, SIL1 introduced it to him. He doesn't get all the jokes, but he gets the Aspie behaviour and sees it better in himself as a result.

He's corrupted his teachers with this one too - he plays it for them and they've now gone out and got the DVD.

That's something to note - what are your son's friends like? Our kids tend to find other Aspies/autistics and bring them home to play. My older son's best friend in school was Aspie. Also best man at his wedding.

That's another positive feature of these kids - they are very good friends, intensely loyal to those friends. If you have an Aspie husband/wife, they also will tend to be intensely loyal and not even LOOK at another person.

Marg
 
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LadyM

Guest
Most of difficult children friends are much younger than them because his mentally much younger than 14.

I really don't think the "equality" thing is going to go over well in our house; HOWEVER, I think there are much better ways I can handle him thanks to all of your help.

I'm actually working on an idea for positive reinforcement instead of constantly being negative. (i.e. if he comes home and takes off his school clothes, brings down his laundry, and feeds the dogs, he can then play his video games if he likes), vs. taking something away if he doesn't.

Even though I won't tell him i'm treating him as an equal, I can do things like not use the "I'm the mom" and "because I said so" lines. I like the ideas of calmly engaging him into a reasonable discussion about what the time is and knowing that it's a school night and bed time is passed, what he intends to do.

I've had other people tell me he responds very well to a non-authoritarian environment. We'll see how it goes.

Thanks again for all of the wonderful advice. I will post when I've tried out these now techniques.

p.s. I ordered The Explosive Child on Amazon last night.
 

Marguerite

Active Member
I really don't think the "equality" thing is going to go over well in our house

Doesn't go down well in our house, either. But it's something you won't be able to change. Just giving you a heads up here. We say "pick your battles" - don't pick this one!

I forgot to mention that a lot of difficult child 3's friends, too, are much younger tan him. However, they are also often the very intelligent ones in that age range. His best friends are about 5-6 years younger than him, but the smartest kids in their class at school. In that group, one also is High-Functioning Autism (HFA).
An exception to this rule - one of difficult child 3's best friends at his drama class is a boy of 19 who has global developmental delay, idiopathic. There are about 100 IQ points between them.

Even though I won't tell him i'm treating him as an equal

Heaven forbid! No, you're right, you certainly don't need to tell him this. Besides, in his head that is already so.

You sound like you're really getting the picture here. Don't be too hard on yourself (or him) if the wheels still fall off occasionally. If there are problems, write down what happened and analyse it later when you're calmer. Also, if/when good things happen, write those down too. Keeping a journal will help you see progress in him as well as in your relationship, as time passes. it also is very useful for the doctors and therapists, to be able to see stuff from your journal.

You're off to a flying start!

Keep us posted on how you get on. You might need to start a new thread by then.

Marg
 

blessmychild

New Member
My son turned 13 this past summer. He has always has periods of aggression. Lately it has really increased alot. He normally pinches and gouges, and as of late pulls hair. We try not to show much of a reaction because he seems to look for one. The gouging is really becoming a problem for us at home and his caregivers/teachers. He is very strong, any suggestions on how to handle this? I am new to this site, but could sure use some help. Thank you!
 

Marguerite

Active Member
BMC, you've posted on the end of an old thread. This could put you at risk for not getting the answers you need. When you can, try starting a new thread with your particular problem, so we can help you more directly.

Positive reinforcement usually works best with these kids. ANY reinforcement also works really fast, and as you noted if he is getting any kind of payoff (in terms of reaction) that is working against you. Testosterone adds to the aggression issues but he has to learn it is not appropriate. You may need professional help with this - see if you can find a therapist who has experience with autism and also cognitive behaviour therapy. Is he high functioning enough, do you think?

He is only going to get stronger, and any reasoning you can use with him may help, if he can understand it. Social stories are good too. Something like, "When Mummy and Daddy are angry with one another, they do not hit, they do not pull hair. Instead, they talk about what has made them angry or sad. If it is hard to talk about, sometimes one will ask questions. Sometimes it is easier to answer questions about why you are sad or angry. It is normal to feel sad or angry at times, but the fastest way to feel better is to explain with words, and ask for help."

Would he understand that?

Marg
 

CynthiaCIBA

New Member
Hopefully this post will help a bit. The best way to redirect a behavior to make it positive is to keep it simple, do not form what you want into a question, (i.e " Can you bring your laundry down?" " Can you pick up your toys now?" ) This allows them the "choice" to not follow directions. You want to make the direction simple and precise. "Bring down your laundry please." you allow a moment for that direction to be understood, if no follow through with the direction, you say again "bring down your laundry please" at this point you would physically hand the child their basket and walk them to where the laundry goes down stairs. Once completed there needs to be a reward. Be it saying " Awesome Job, thanks for being such a help!" Or " because you did that so well you can have ( insert reward here )" <br>
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The trick to changing any negative behavior is to redirect it into a positive rewarding choice. After some time and mastering the skill you are wanting master you can do away with the rewards so much. <br>
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Another thing to keep in mind is when we show extreme emotions our facial expressions change drastically and to most on the spectrum it looks like a cartoon. Think of it as a fun house mirror trick, we furrow our brow, set our jaw, and narrow our eyes. To them it looks like our forehead shrunk, eyes bulgy, and the face elongated. SO this becomes interesting for them to see. They will do things to get this response. So keeping this in mind during times when the child has outbursts or tantrums will help. You want to appear calm on the outside as well as on the inside. Your voice should be firm but void of emotion and until they reach a calming period, it's best to remain silent. They will not absorb what you are saying when "angry". After they reach the calming period you will tell them what they did wrong and what could have done. You will stress that this action is unacceptable in this home or in society. AT this point you will "punish". The punishment should fit the crime, so if it is a tantrum for not getting something, that item is taken away for the day. If it an outburst then you would take away something they enjoy, such as video game time, for a appropriate amount of time.<br>
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Another thing to look at is the Antecedent. What was going on before the behavior happened? Most times you will find a "trigger" for certain behaviors. Finding this can help you in not repeating/changing the action prior to the behavior and having less negative responses. <br>
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Keep in mind as young adults most of the behaviors have been learned or imitated from the environment. It may take time to gain the control back but it will happen with persistence from the Parents. Again I hope this helps a bit.<br>
 

TiredSoul

Warrior Mom since 2007
I enjoyed reading this thread very much and didn't realize until the end that it was from 2010. :)

Where is Marg? Is she still around?
 
Mary and LadyM, I realize this thread is years old but nonetheless I stumbled on to it while searching for surfing for support, so I do hope you both are current. I read the entire thread with laughter and tears....LadyM posted my life story, down to the uncontrollable running thru the house and breaking doors and towel holders and anything else within reach.

My question for LadyM is "how is everything going now?". The reason I ask is because I have the same make/model of difficult child as LadyM, and I am also in line with Marg's advice... I knew before my son was 2 that he had autism; it wasn't hard to figure it out (non-verbal, unresponsive, zero eye contact). After years of study and organizing a plan to connect with and help my son, things were going very well.....that is until I forgot that my son has autism. The growth was so ginormous that my expectations started to skyrocket. I have practiced the whole " calm" campaign along with sensory activities to minimize damage¡ I learned early on that mimic is the way they learn and I used it as my ally
 
As well as many other things.....such as, anything I wanted to tell child I did not direct to child.....I spoke to the dog. Yes I looked and sounded like a fruit loop but it worked beautifully.
So I'm çurious as to how everything turned out so I can either have hope or maybe be redirected in my plans.
Thanks for both of your transparency.
-4 the love of blue.
 

Tamlkt

New Member
We have my son in a special school. The school couldn't handle him and they were at wits end in 5th grade. He's been going to a wonderful school, seeing a psychiatrist and he is doing really well now. We struggled a lot. I feel your pain. My son has Asperger's, severe ADHD, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and Mood disorder not otherwise specified. What a challenge. They need structure and rules. If he thinks he's going to get away with it, give consequences. However, you need repetition in order for it to work. We too had intervention since my was about 8. Ask your school for help. Take yourself a 'Wrights Law' conference so you know your rights as a parent when it comes to schools. My son's regular school pays for this special school. Its not easy raising children with issues. My other daughter is the issue at this point, not my son.
 
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