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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 336371" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>LOL!!! Ohh, yeah!</p><p> </p><p><em><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="color: #000000">Me: difficult child it's bed time</span></span></span></em></p><p><em><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="color: #000000">difficult child: No it isn't</span></span></span></em></p><p><em><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">Me: Yes it is, it's past bed time</span></span></span></em></p><p><em><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">difficult child: (getting louder), no it isn't, you're lying to me, I don't see a clock anywhere!</span></span></span></em></p><p><em><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">Me: (now angry because he called me a liar), I am NOT lying! It is bed time, stop messing around and hit it!</span></span></span></em></p><p><em><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">difficult child: You don't tell me what to do!!</span></span></span></em></p><p><em><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">Me: The hell I don't, I'm the mom here, you're in my house, do what I told you and GET TO BED!</span></span></span></em></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">Now, we give our son a 1/2 hr warning, 15 min warning, 10, 5, etc. I used to say, "Are you STILL playing? You're supposed to go to bed!" and of course, he'd get mad. Now I ask, "Are you saving the score?"</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">It helps to know what it is he's playing so I can ask a very specific question, then tailor it to MY needs, i.e. saving the score means he's ready to turn off the game.</span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">I love the, "I don't see a clock anywhere," comment. It's actually funny now, but you are too much in the thick of it to see it. That is SO much the way they think!</span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">I have actually taken a clock and shown it to my difficult child. He will disagree, and I'll tell him to lean forward and check the microwave clock. At some point, he just has to give in.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">The key is to do it in a calm voice.</span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">No easy task!</span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">Also, you must be consistent. If you changed the time one night because it was summer vacation, you must make clear that was summer vacation and has nothing to do with-what you're doing now. Sometimes a weekly reminder is all you need. "Remember, it's the school year and our bedtime is always 9:00 (or whatever it is)."</span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">P.S. ...about the lying thing. Have you seen the movie, ADAM? Rent it. It's got a great scene about lying, comparing what we NT's consider a white lie with-a huge event in the movie that is a crime based on a lie. Great stuff.</span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 336371, member: 3419"] LOL!!! Ohh, yeah! [I][SIZE=3][FONT=Calibri][COLOR=#000000]Me: difficult child it's bed time[/COLOR][/FONT][/SIZE][/I] [I][SIZE=3][FONT=Calibri][COLOR=#000000]difficult child: No it isn't[/COLOR][/FONT][/SIZE][/I] [I][FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]Me: Yes it is, it's past bed time[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT][/I] [I][FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]difficult child: (getting louder), no it isn't, you're lying to me, I don't see a clock anywhere![/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT][/I] [I][FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]Me: (now angry because he called me a liar), I am NOT lying! It is bed time, stop messing around and hit it![/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT][/I] [I][FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]difficult child: You don't tell me what to do!![/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT][/I] [I][FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]Me: The hell I don't, I'm the mom here, you're in my house, do what I told you and GET TO BED![/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT][/I] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]Now, we give our son a 1/2 hr warning, 15 min warning, 10, 5, etc. I used to say, "Are you STILL playing? You're supposed to go to bed!" and of course, he'd get mad. Now I ask, "Are you saving the score?"[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]It helps to know what it is he's playing so I can ask a very specific question, then tailor it to MY needs, i.e. saving the score means he's ready to turn off the game.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]I love the, "I don't see a clock anywhere," comment. It's actually funny now, but you are too much in the thick of it to see it. That is SO much the way they think![/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]I have actually taken a clock and shown it to my difficult child. He will disagree, and I'll tell him to lean forward and check the microwave clock. At some point, he just has to give in.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]The key is to do it in a calm voice.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]No easy task![/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]Also, you must be consistent. If you changed the time one night because it was summer vacation, you must make clear that was summer vacation and has nothing to do with-what you're doing now. Sometimes a weekly reminder is all you need. "Remember, it's the school year and our bedtime is always 9:00 (or whatever it is)."[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]P.S. ...about the lying thing. Have you seen the movie, ADAM? Rent it. It's got a great scene about lying, comparing what we NT's consider a white lie with-a huge event in the movie that is a crime based on a lie. Great stuff.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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