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<blockquote data-quote="CynthiaCIBA" data-source="post: 598387" data-attributes="member: 16471"><p>Hopefully this post will help a bit. The best way to redirect a behavior to make it positive is to keep it simple, do not form what you want into a question, (i.e " Can you bring your laundry down?" " Can you pick up your toys now?" ) This allows them the "choice" to not follow directions. You want to make the direction simple and precise. "Bring down your laundry please." you allow a moment for that direction to be understood, if no follow through with the direction, you say again "bring down your laundry please" at this point you would physically hand the child their basket and walk them to where the laundry goes down stairs. Once completed there needs to be a reward. Be it saying " Awesome Job, thanks for being such a help!" Or " because you did that so well you can have ( insert reward here )" <br></p><p><br></p><p>The trick to changing any negative behavior is to redirect it into a positive rewarding choice. After some time and mastering the skill you are wanting master you can do away with the rewards so much. <br></p><p><br></p><p>Another thing to keep in mind is when we show extreme emotions our facial expressions change drastically and to most on the spectrum it looks like a cartoon. Think of it as a fun house mirror trick, we furrow our brow, set our jaw, and narrow our eyes. To them it looks like our forehead shrunk, eyes bulgy, and the face elongated. SO this becomes interesting for them to see. They will do things to get this response. So keeping this in mind during times when the child has outbursts or tantrums will help. You want to appear calm on the outside as well as on the inside. Your voice should be firm but void of emotion and until they reach a calming period, it's best to remain silent. They will not absorb what you are saying when "angry". After they reach the calming period you will tell them what they did wrong and what could have done. You will stress that this action is unacceptable in this home or in society. AT this point you will "punish". The punishment should fit the crime, so if it is a tantrum for not getting something, that item is taken away for the day. If it an outburst then you would take away something they enjoy, such as video game time, for a appropriate amount of time.<br></p><p><br></p><p>Another thing to look at is the Antecedent. What was going on before the behavior happened? Most times you will find a "trigger" for certain behaviors. Finding this can help you in not repeating/changing the action prior to the behavior and having less negative responses. <br></p><p><br></p><p>Keep in mind as young adults most of the behaviors have been learned or imitated from the environment. It may take time to gain the control back but it will happen with persistence from the Parents. Again I hope this helps a bit.<br></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CynthiaCIBA, post: 598387, member: 16471"] Hopefully this post will help a bit. The best way to redirect a behavior to make it positive is to keep it simple, do not form what you want into a question, (i.e " Can you bring your laundry down?" " Can you pick up your toys now?" ) This allows them the "choice" to not follow directions. You want to make the direction simple and precise. "Bring down your laundry please." you allow a moment for that direction to be understood, if no follow through with the direction, you say again "bring down your laundry please" at this point you would physically hand the child their basket and walk them to where the laundry goes down stairs. Once completed there needs to be a reward. Be it saying " Awesome Job, thanks for being such a help!" Or " because you did that so well you can have ( insert reward here )" <br> <br> The trick to changing any negative behavior is to redirect it into a positive rewarding choice. After some time and mastering the skill you are wanting master you can do away with the rewards so much. <br> <br> Another thing to keep in mind is when we show extreme emotions our facial expressions change drastically and to most on the spectrum it looks like a cartoon. Think of it as a fun house mirror trick, we furrow our brow, set our jaw, and narrow our eyes. To them it looks like our forehead shrunk, eyes bulgy, and the face elongated. SO this becomes interesting for them to see. They will do things to get this response. So keeping this in mind during times when the child has outbursts or tantrums will help. You want to appear calm on the outside as well as on the inside. Your voice should be firm but void of emotion and until they reach a calming period, it's best to remain silent. They will not absorb what you are saying when "angry". After they reach the calming period you will tell them what they did wrong and what could have done. You will stress that this action is unacceptable in this home or in society. AT this point you will "punish". The punishment should fit the crime, so if it is a tantrum for not getting something, that item is taken away for the day. If it an outburst then you would take away something they enjoy, such as video game time, for a appropriate amount of time.<br> <br> Another thing to look at is the Antecedent. What was going on before the behavior happened? Most times you will find a "trigger" for certain behaviors. Finding this can help you in not repeating/changing the action prior to the behavior and having less negative responses. <br> <br> Keep in mind as young adults most of the behaviors have been learned or imitated from the environment. It may take time to gain the control back but it will happen with persistence from the Parents. Again I hope this helps a bit.<br> [/QUOTE]
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