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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 112867" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Yep.</p><p></p><p>STOP!</p><p></p><p>It might be a good investment to get a phone with caller ID. Then you'll know who's calling when the phone rings. Seriously.</p><p></p><p>You are allowed to use the word NO at will. You are not required to take on the care of your inlaws simply because you married their son. As you pointed out yourself, they have other children. You are not required to care for your inlaws simply because you live upstairs from them. (I'd consider moving as quickly as possible)</p><p></p><p>My mother in law is 94. I do her running for her, but it still has to fit around my schedule. I may adore her, but I still have my own family responsiblities to handle, as well as helping her. Money is tight around here, too. If I make a big meal, it's not unusual for me to make mother in law a plate and take it to her. (she lives only a couple of blocks from us) But that's only if there is enough to do so. I don't have the money to cook for mother in law everyday. I can't help it, it is a fact of life. mother in law wouldn't want me to do it if it wasn't extra anyway.</p><p></p><p>If husband wants to volunteer, let him do the follow thru. Stay out of it.</p><p></p><p>If you don't have the left over food to offer in laws a plate, don't give up YOUR food to do it. Just let them know there wasn't enough at that meal. If they don't understand, then it is THEIR problem. You've been honest. Same about the paying bills using your gas ect. Be Honest with them.</p><p></p><p>Because as long as you keep letting them, they'll keep asking and expecting. You'll still be stressed to the max. And that stroke or heart attack will probably be in your near future. Then you'll have even more MAJOR problems to worry about.</p><p></p><p>So, do yourself a favor. Just Say No! (it doesn't just work for drugs lol)</p><p></p><p>((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 112867, member: 84"] Yep. STOP! It might be a good investment to get a phone with caller ID. Then you'll know who's calling when the phone rings. Seriously. You are allowed to use the word NO at will. You are not required to take on the care of your inlaws simply because you married their son. As you pointed out yourself, they have other children. You are not required to care for your inlaws simply because you live upstairs from them. (I'd consider moving as quickly as possible) My mother in law is 94. I do her running for her, but it still has to fit around my schedule. I may adore her, but I still have my own family responsiblities to handle, as well as helping her. Money is tight around here, too. If I make a big meal, it's not unusual for me to make mother in law a plate and take it to her. (she lives only a couple of blocks from us) But that's only if there is enough to do so. I don't have the money to cook for mother in law everyday. I can't help it, it is a fact of life. mother in law wouldn't want me to do it if it wasn't extra anyway. If husband wants to volunteer, let him do the follow thru. Stay out of it. If you don't have the left over food to offer in laws a plate, don't give up YOUR food to do it. Just let them know there wasn't enough at that meal. If they don't understand, then it is THEIR problem. You've been honest. Same about the paying bills using your gas ect. Be Honest with them. Because as long as you keep letting them, they'll keep asking and expecting. You'll still be stressed to the max. And that stroke or heart attack will probably be in your near future. Then you'll have even more MAJOR problems to worry about. So, do yourself a favor. Just Say No! (it doesn't just work for drugs lol) ((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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