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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 113729" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I'll bet the other kids all finally said No, too.</p><p></p><p>I'll be honest, my husband wouldn't do squat for his Mom if I didn't make him. Not because he doesn't love her, but because he doesn't want to be bothered, and he's an "out of sight, out of mind" sort of person.</p><p></p><p>So at least several times a month I make him do something for her. He has to make one of the grocery runs or something. Gives me a break. And for Pete's sake, while I LOVE my mother in law, she's HIS mother, not mine.</p><p></p><p>I know the situation feels impossible. It can when you're the one in the middle of it and everyone is making demands on you. </p><p></p><p>But truely, what's the worst that's gonna happen? In laws are gonna get mad? Well, hmmmm. Maybe you won't hear from them for a few weeks. lol</p><p></p><p>Your mother in law reminds me of a neighbor I had once. She didn't even have the excuse of advanced age. She was in her late 20's, had been divorced twice, had 5 kids. The two youngest were preemie twins. From the moment we met it was "Can you help me by...."</p><p></p><p>At first I didn't mind. The babies were only a few wks old. But after weeks and weeks, I finally realized she was actually doing very little to "help" herself. She didn't work, lived off child support. Lived in HUD apartment so no rent to pay or utilities. WIC and foodstamps covered food. Was home all day, yet couldn't manage to do the daily care of her own kids, run to the store, pay a bill.....</p><p></p><p>Then I also found out she was using the other neighbors too. Wasn't 6 mos before no one was "able" to help her with a darn thing. :rofl:</p><p></p><p>mother in law can only use you if you let her. If husband isn't happy about it, then tell him you have no problem with HIM helping his parents. Pobably won't be long til he agrees with you. :wink: :smirk:</p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 113729, member: 84"] I'll bet the other kids all finally said No, too. I'll be honest, my husband wouldn't do squat for his Mom if I didn't make him. Not because he doesn't love her, but because he doesn't want to be bothered, and he's an "out of sight, out of mind" sort of person. So at least several times a month I make him do something for her. He has to make one of the grocery runs or something. Gives me a break. And for Pete's sake, while I LOVE my mother in law, she's HIS mother, not mine. I know the situation feels impossible. It can when you're the one in the middle of it and everyone is making demands on you. But truely, what's the worst that's gonna happen? In laws are gonna get mad? Well, hmmmm. Maybe you won't hear from them for a few weeks. lol Your mother in law reminds me of a neighbor I had once. She didn't even have the excuse of advanced age. She was in her late 20's, had been divorced twice, had 5 kids. The two youngest were preemie twins. From the moment we met it was "Can you help me by...." At first I didn't mind. The babies were only a few wks old. But after weeks and weeks, I finally realized she was actually doing very little to "help" herself. She didn't work, lived off child support. Lived in HUD apartment so no rent to pay or utilities. WIC and foodstamps covered food. Was home all day, yet couldn't manage to do the daily care of her own kids, run to the store, pay a bill..... Then I also found out she was using the other neighbors too. Wasn't 6 mos before no one was "able" to help her with a darn thing. [img]:rofl:[/img] mother in law can only use you if you let her. If husband isn't happy about it, then tell him you have no problem with HIM helping his parents. Pobably won't be long til he agrees with you. [img]:wink:[/img] [img]:smirk:[/img] Hugs [/QUOTE]
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