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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 723437" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Live seperately if he takes her back in. And have HIM leave the farm. N may not be in the best place, but your son, your first priority, is safe from her. Do not give her a chance to hurt your son.</p><p>Some kids are so damaged that they are safer for all, themselves included, if they get help in a lock up residential facility. N is heading for trouble and, if she was brain damaged because Mom took drugs during her pregnancy, even if she stopped using in the latter part of her pregnancy (sorry, that is too late) then she may not ever be able to learn to behave more appropriately. Alcohol in utero can damage the ability to know about AND care about right from wrong. It is organic brain damage, irreversible. Also she sounds like she was neglected as an infant/toddler and sexually abused. Her sister may have been too, but all kids are affected differently. The same damage done to N may not have caused M to act as disturbed/dangerous as N. Yet problems may yet surface, even if they are learning issues or drug use...who knows?</p><p></p><p>If you did not have a child you would have perhaps more options, but your little boy needs you to protect him.</p><p></p><p>Maybe approach your husband with working on getting N into residential treatment. But dont ever let your son live with her again. He should not fear in his own house. Nor should you. And some kids, especially as they get older and bigger, are dangerous. N has already gone too far, cutting your hair while you slept...and so quitly, you didnt wake! Put your well being and your son before N, even if you feel bad. I loved the child who hurt us, but I knew he could never live with us again. He went to residential treatment and we never saw him again. I am not sorry. It was best for all, him too.</p><p></p><p>Prayers and keep posting. We care. I care a lot!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 723437, member: 1550"] Live seperately if he takes her back in. And have HIM leave the farm. N may not be in the best place, but your son, your first priority, is safe from her. Do not give her a chance to hurt your son. Some kids are so damaged that they are safer for all, themselves included, if they get help in a lock up residential facility. N is heading for trouble and, if she was brain damaged because Mom took drugs during her pregnancy, even if she stopped using in the latter part of her pregnancy (sorry, that is too late) then she may not ever be able to learn to behave more appropriately. Alcohol in utero can damage the ability to know about AND care about right from wrong. It is organic brain damage, irreversible. Also she sounds like she was neglected as an infant/toddler and sexually abused. Her sister may have been too, but all kids are affected differently. The same damage done to N may not have caused M to act as disturbed/dangerous as N. Yet problems may yet surface, even if they are learning issues or drug use...who knows? If you did not have a child you would have perhaps more options, but your little boy needs you to protect him. Maybe approach your husband with working on getting N into residential treatment. But dont ever let your son live with her again. He should not fear in his own house. Nor should you. And some kids, especially as they get older and bigger, are dangerous. N has already gone too far, cutting your hair while you slept...and so quitly, you didnt wake! Put your well being and your son before N, even if you feel bad. I loved the child who hurt us, but I knew he could never live with us again. He went to residential treatment and we never saw him again. I am not sorry. It was best for all, him too. Prayers and keep posting. We care. I care a lot! [/QUOTE]
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