Hi- I am new here and have a 10yr old son that I believe I now need to find psychiatric help for. Since birth he was "high need"- crying constantly, wanting to be held, etc.. He was a good toddler but had frequent tantrums when he did not get what he wanted. As he got older, the tantrums continued the second he did not get his way. He started to get aggressive and hit husband and myself. By age 7 we tried a psychologist because tantrums and hitting were worse (at home only- not school) and ds was very moody. We tried long lists of many different behavior charts, etc.. but nothing was effective since ds was argumentative about what he "earned" on those charts. Changed psychologists since first one did nothing for us, and second one also tried different behavior methods but ds was uncooperatvie, refusing to try anything and ultimately refusing even to go. By age 8-9, ds was easily angered, changed his mood in a second, still tantruming, excessively defient, was involved in a few fights in summer camp, carrying on and crying if ref. or umpire calls didn't go his way in soccer or baseball, etc... We enrolled him in child anger management program that ran for a few week and he sees a family counselor who is this young guy ds sort of relates to. Now at age 10, I truly believe that many of his behaviors are "out of his control". A few minutes after an incident or episode, he apologizes and is even saying he can't help himself from "losing it". Now I feel he is more an emotional wreck besides a behavior problem. He blows his top at every little thing, cries often, very frustrated and can't handle it, etc,,. I think or know he is ODD but definitly has other problems I must find help for. He has never been given any diagnosis. He is breaking my heart watching him struggle and it is also ruining our family and things we used to do because it is embarrasing to have other parents comment about us when situations arise at ds sporting events. My ds needs help and I am not sure how to find the right person for this! I want a child psychiatrist, not a general one. I am having a hard time finding one. I just want to cry myself constantly because I feel so overwhelmed not getting the right help for my ds. Any advice would be great.