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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 142759" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Hi, another one who adopted an older child. A couple of comments and suggestions. Don't expect your daughter to be grateful for being adopted, whether it was a life of sheer poverty, neglect or abuse. Do be prepared for some serious resentment during the next few years. She's more than likely going to put her biofamily on a pedestal and have a fairy tale dream of what life would have been like had she stayed with them. Stinks for us, but it is something we have to accept.</p><p> </p><p>If you haven't read it, I found "Adopting the Hurt Child" by Keck to be extremely helpful. Also, "The Explosive Child" for some basic behavior modification.</p><p> </p><p>Has reactive attachment disorder been ruled out? If you don't have one, try to find a therapist who specializes in adoption issues. If she does have Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), you're looking at a whole different ball of wax and behavior modification is only a small part of what will be needed for her. For mine, it took intensive therapy and, ultimately, a long stint at an Residential Treatment Center (RTC).</p><p> </p><p>You're not alone in this war (and it is a war!). We'll hold your hand through the bad times, cheer for the good ones and even make you laugh a time or two. Welcome!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 142759, member: 3626"] Hi, another one who adopted an older child. A couple of comments and suggestions. Don't expect your daughter to be grateful for being adopted, whether it was a life of sheer poverty, neglect or abuse. Do be prepared for some serious resentment during the next few years. She's more than likely going to put her biofamily on a pedestal and have a fairy tale dream of what life would have been like had she stayed with them. Stinks for us, but it is something we have to accept. If you haven't read it, I found "Adopting the Hurt Child" by Keck to be extremely helpful. Also, "The Explosive Child" for some basic behavior modification. Has reactive attachment disorder been ruled out? If you don't have one, try to find a therapist who specializes in adoption issues. If she does have Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), you're looking at a whole different ball of wax and behavior modification is only a small part of what will be needed for her. For mine, it took intensive therapy and, ultimately, a long stint at an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). You're not alone in this war (and it is a war!). We'll hold your hand through the bad times, cheer for the good ones and even make you laugh a time or two. Welcome! [/QUOTE]
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