Hello to all. I have been dealing with explosive behavior from my difficult child since he was 3(he's now 9) and it became obvious that he wasn't outgrowing his terrible twos. I had my sister in law tell me that he was just a spoiled brat and due to my extremely low self esteem I believed her for for many years. When I did try to get help for difficult child I was told that the problem was mine because I was depressed and had ADD and that once I got help he would be better. Funny that I was put on mulitple medications and it didn't help either one of us. I decided last year to try again and get help for him when he started acting out at daycare(where I worked). The first therapist decided that he had ODD behavior and so each wk husband and I had to attend sessions to learn how to parent difficult child. I have read all the books and tried reward charts, timeouts,yelling, and yes my husband even tried spanking once or twice and we don't even believe in hitting our kids! Of course he is typical ODD and any harsh discipline just made things worse. But this Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) was gonna teach us how to parent our boy. He suggested all the things that we had already tried but we tried them again. well 6months later difficult child hadnt changed at all so he was referred to a play therapist. well 5 months later he still isn't any better. he was diagnoised with ADD by a pyschologist and we are trying medications but I don't see a huge difference after a week. pediatrician keeps asking if teacher sees a difference in his behavior but she doesnt' see much ADD behavior or much explosive behavior she sees more of the anxiety than anything else. Its at home that he screams at us when we ask him to do anything at all that isn't according to his plan. Yesterday he screamed at my neighbor called her a liar. I think that this play therapist is a joke like the other therapist and I want to get him a more complete evaluation but where the heck do I start!! Please help! Point me in the right direction!! Sorry this is so long,