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<blockquote data-quote="flutterby" data-source="post: 294427" data-attributes="member: 7083"><p>What Fran said, but especially this:</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Ignoring the behavior, I have found, is the way to go. Our children are very much 'in the moment' and a consequence during a rage will make the rage worse; while a consequence after will have little meaning if the child cannot control the behavior, or hasn't learned how. </p><p></p><p>Believe me, I know how hard it is to ignore a child in a rage. been there done that. You have to find a zone in your mind that you can get into. For me, remembering that these are symptoms of an illness/disorder and not a child being bad or that hates me helped immensely. There are still times I have to remind myself because we deal with the behaviors everyday and they sap the life out of you. Then all you see are the behaviors and it's easy to forget that the behaviors are actually symptoms.</p><p></p><p>Sorry if this is jumbled. I haven't slept.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterby, post: 294427, member: 7083"] What Fran said, but especially this: Ignoring the behavior, I have found, is the way to go. Our children are very much 'in the moment' and a consequence during a rage will make the rage worse; while a consequence after will have little meaning if the child cannot control the behavior, or hasn't learned how. Believe me, I know how hard it is to ignore a child in a rage. been there done that. You have to find a zone in your mind that you can get into. For me, remembering that these are symptoms of an illness/disorder and not a child being bad or that hates me helped immensely. There are still times I have to remind myself because we deal with the behaviors everyday and they sap the life out of you. Then all you see are the behaviors and it's easy to forget that the behaviors are actually symptoms. Sorry if this is jumbled. I haven't slept. [/QUOTE]
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