Glad I found this site. Today I went to look at the local respite facilities we will start using next week for our son. Yesterday it took both my husband and me to get difficult child to school. I drove and husband held difficult child in the back seat. It was very draining for both of us as you all well know. I've been looking into and doing the paperwork for respite for a couple months now, and finally we are ready to give it a try. husband travels quite a bit and I stay home with difficult child and ddd for days at a time. difficult child's worst behavior is the hitting, punching and kicking and fake punching and hitting (I am the biggest target). But things are escalating and the words are getting more and more disrespectful and ddd and I are unable to find a safe place in the house. We have the funds now to put good locks on the doors so we can be safe, but the entire situation is rediculous and sad. My husband came home from his travels and said he sees how wrong everything is at home after he has time away. So respite next week and a serious call the counselor by my husband (made yesterday) asking for more help. Wish us luck. We are trying so hard, but it gets so tiring!