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Here is my letter to Scott. Did I act too needy?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 99204" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thanks, all. </p><p>When my mom didn't speak to me (and I was very angry at her) a letter like this would have made me understand her better. Whether or not I did the right thing, I'm not sure. I really had nothing to lose...lol. And I feel I ended a painful chapter. He probably won't do anything about it. He's been extremely selfish and cold for the past two years and incredibly inflexible. We've had talks like this before--I just never put it in a letter. In the end, he cut the entire family off after he met K, found his version of Christianity, and went through a class called "Boundaries." I guess he felt we were infringing on his boundaries. I can't see how since he never saw anybody more than once a month, usually less than that. And nobody bombarded him with phonecalls or pleas for his time or money. I think like many older adopted kids (and I make the distinction because I adopted three younger ones) he just can't attach to parental figures. He is being similarly this way to his father. After reading your comments, more than ever I feel it's time to get into maybe some sort of grief counseling and let it go. Thank you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 99204, member: 1550"] Thanks, all. When my mom didn't speak to me (and I was very angry at her) a letter like this would have made me understand her better. Whether or not I did the right thing, I'm not sure. I really had nothing to lose...lol. And I feel I ended a painful chapter. He probably won't do anything about it. He's been extremely selfish and cold for the past two years and incredibly inflexible. We've had talks like this before--I just never put it in a letter. In the end, he cut the entire family off after he met K, found his version of Christianity, and went through a class called "Boundaries." I guess he felt we were infringing on his boundaries. I can't see how since he never saw anybody more than once a month, usually less than that. And nobody bombarded him with phonecalls or pleas for his time or money. I think like many older adopted kids (and I make the distinction because I adopted three younger ones) he just can't attach to parental figures. He is being similarly this way to his father. After reading your comments, more than ever I feel it's time to get into maybe some sort of grief counseling and let it go. Thank you! [/QUOTE]
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