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Here we go again - Women just aren't "allowed" to be stand up for themselves.
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<blockquote data-quote="flutterby" data-source="post: 435530" data-attributes="member: 7083"><p>I used to worry about the fallout, too. Then it hit me one day that this person was making me extremely uncomfortable and showing no respect for me by doing so, and here I was worried about saying "no" without "hurting feelings". </p><p></p><p>I've always been blunt and direct. I've been told by both men and women that I intimidate them until they get to know me. I've managed to really tick off a lot of people without even knowing what I said. I guess the irony here is that I go through a lot of effort to word things in a way that say what I want to say, but not be so blunt, and I'm still called a xitch. (I never understood taking 5 paragraphs to say what you can say in 2 sentences. I hated essays in school that had to be so many words. I could do it in at least half.) So, whatever. Their problem, not mine.</p><p></p><p>And Lord help anyone who tries to get difficult child to do anything she doesn't want to do. Not because she is obstinate (which she is), but because she is very firm on what she believes and feels. She's not changing that for anyone. I like to think I had something to do with that, and I have always taught my kids to think for themselves, but she was probably mostly born with it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterby, post: 435530, member: 7083"] I used to worry about the fallout, too. Then it hit me one day that this person was making me extremely uncomfortable and showing no respect for me by doing so, and here I was worried about saying "no" without "hurting feelings". I've always been blunt and direct. I've been told by both men and women that I intimidate them until they get to know me. I've managed to really tick off a lot of people without even knowing what I said. I guess the irony here is that I go through a lot of effort to word things in a way that say what I want to say, but not be so blunt, and I'm still called a xitch. (I never understood taking 5 paragraphs to say what you can say in 2 sentences. I hated essays in school that had to be so many words. I could do it in at least half.) So, whatever. Their problem, not mine. And Lord help anyone who tries to get difficult child to do anything she doesn't want to do. Not because she is obstinate (which she is), but because she is very firm on what she believes and feels. She's not changing that for anyone. I like to think I had something to do with that, and I have always taught my kids to think for themselves, but she was probably mostly born with it. [/QUOTE]
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