What do you do to an adult kid to get him to conform to house rules when throwing him out on his arse isn't really an option? I don't ask for much from Travis. Mainly because due to his dxes and disabilities he can't do a whole lot. And most of the time he does ok with house rules. Except for a few major areas. I walked into his room the other day.........Now understand, I avoid this boy's room at all cost. Getting him to clean it is like Mohommad trying to move a mountain. This is not all laziness on his part. Not according to the neuro, anyway. Most of it's due to brain issues. No organization, brain overloads and shuts down to where he can actually forget what he's doing..............And yeah. To say the room is a stye would be an understatement of the century. He's not allowed to eat or drink in his room. Food containers, empty wrappers and soda cans are everywhere. Oh, and 2/3's of my dishes are somewhere among that disaster. He's not allowed to smoke in his room. This one is huge for me. One I have an overwhelming fear of fire. husband and I haven't lit a cigarette in a bedroom in more than 15 years. (when I finally put my foot down with husband) It is just plain dangerous. Add in the blindness, epilepsy, and the fact that his room has so much trash in it that it would go up like a torch..........Well, I haven't slept well the past couple of nights. If husband or I "help" him clean his room (help = sit there and keep him on task) and then I inspect it daily, that will be solved. Tackling his room with school schedules and work schedules has been the tough part. But the smoking.......I have a feeling he's gonna sneak no matter what I say simply because it's easier for him to lit up there than come downstairs every time he wants one. I've been trying to come up with a feesable conscequence for this one. Normal ones I don't think will work. My usual tactics are to stop rides to work and meals. But he's looking for an excuse to quit krogers......and while the meals might work......it'll probably just make him more careful about hiding it. I dunno. Sometimes hitting him in his stomach can work wonders. So? Any creative ideas? If push came to shove, I'd evict him. Don't know where he'd wind up other than our already over full homeless shelter. (he doesn't make enough for an apartment) But somehow that just doesn't seem right considering his various disabilities. Nor is he doing these things to simply be defiant, even the smoking. He just doesn't get why it's even an issue, and I'm not getting thru to him. Why does this one always, always have to be such a challenge?