I was kind of expecting it as he has just been made homeless - it generally goes that, he hates me right up until he needs something and then he is full of remorse. He sent me a text saying how sorry he is, how he has acted like a child over the last few years and know its time to sort himself out. What he really means is that he wants to come back and live with me and I cannot allow that to happen. I'm not sure whether to reply, just to let him know that I do love him and that perhaps we can meet in a couple of weeks for coffee. I don't want to give him any sign that he is able t rely on my for money of a roof over his head because I wont let it happen anymore. At the same time, I want him to know that he is loved and if he is prepared to make the effort then in the future we can reconnect. He is only 18 and he is part vulnerable and part manipulative and I just don't know what to do. Do I just ignore him or do I send a message that re enforces the boundaries that lets him know that he cannot live with me. Any suggestions gratefully received.