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He's gone & I am heartbroken yet resigned. Need to remember to breathe,
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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 500435"><p>I don't really know how it happened. I didn't say a word to him. He came down early, ate breakfast & H decided to talk to him about registering at CC today since he had refused to do so yesterday and had deflected my texts. By last night, it was very obvious that difficult child had been just stringing us along since his "confession" on Tuesday night, buying time getting his ducks in a row in conjunction with his scheming girlfriend.... I may be kidding myself, but I am pretty sure that the confession and the relief we saw on Tuesday night was real, until his girlfriend got a hold of him. She came over late Tuesday and then he went over to her house on Wed and again last night. She transferred to difficult children former school last semester, I am pretty sure she was the motivation behind the secret apartment, and I KNOW she does not want to be in the college town without him. He was the reason she moved there. So I am relatively sure she put pressure on him to just go back there and live his life. He's really going to be all hers now-completely dependent on her providing transportation and paying his expenses. I think she likes that. Please know that I am not excusing him by blaming her - I just can't wrap my head around it. And I can't understand why on earth her parents aren't barring the doors and banning my son. It's painfully honest that difficult child is using and that he is heading for bottom. Yet her family seems to like painting us as the overbearing pyscho parents and themselves as the cool caring parents. MY KID JUST FLUNKED OUT OF COLLEGE> HOW MANY MORE SIGNS DO THEY NEED? They're only 19; they knew my son when he was a clean cut, straight A, varsity athlete so they know how far he has fallen.</p><p></p><p>And I digress. I didn't want to be part of the conversation today so I am not quite sure how it went down. I am overwrought and incredibly nauseous and so intensely HURT by and ANGRY about his manipulation. I knew I would end up hysterical and I just wasn't going to invest that emotion in him again. Plus my pcs were still asleep and I knew my presence would likely amp things up and I just didn't want to go there. difficult child knows just how to push my buttons so that it changes the dynamic. And I was chicken. There was no shouting, though I stayed far away from the conversation. (I sat in the laundry room and sewed up the holes in difficult child's gloves since I figured he would need them. And it kept my hands busy and I figured it was a decent last motherly act.) Apparently, H told difficult child that he needed to be in school and that the local CC was the only option available based on his suspension. difficult child maintained that he could go to the cc in the college town 5 hours away and live in his apartment. H reminded him "not part of the plan." difficult child turned the conversation and deflected it to to how this is all my fault, I spied, I snooped, I can't let him have his freedom, I want to control him blah blah blah, H tried to keep it on the topic of logic and "let's get you back on your feet"...and difficult child went into flee mode, ran upstairs and started packing. And H (wisely) let him. H went back upstairs to try to get thru to him unsuccessfully. And I locked myself in my closet and called my mom. Originally, difficult child told h that he was going to live with his best friend's older brother locally and get a job delivering court paperwork. About 40 minutes later, he told H he was going back to college town. Not sure which it is, I don't really care. He's completely out of touch with logic and reality. And I know it's drugs and I would guess it's more than just pot. And for now I just have to let it be and keep moving...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 500435"] I don't really know how it happened. I didn't say a word to him. He came down early, ate breakfast & H decided to talk to him about registering at CC today since he had refused to do so yesterday and had deflected my texts. By last night, it was very obvious that difficult child had been just stringing us along since his "confession" on Tuesday night, buying time getting his ducks in a row in conjunction with his scheming girlfriend.... I may be kidding myself, but I am pretty sure that the confession and the relief we saw on Tuesday night was real, until his girlfriend got a hold of him. She came over late Tuesday and then he went over to her house on Wed and again last night. She transferred to difficult children former school last semester, I am pretty sure she was the motivation behind the secret apartment, and I KNOW she does not want to be in the college town without him. He was the reason she moved there. So I am relatively sure she put pressure on him to just go back there and live his life. He's really going to be all hers now-completely dependent on her providing transportation and paying his expenses. I think she likes that. Please know that I am not excusing him by blaming her - I just can't wrap my head around it. And I can't understand why on earth her parents aren't barring the doors and banning my son. It's painfully honest that difficult child is using and that he is heading for bottom. Yet her family seems to like painting us as the overbearing pyscho parents and themselves as the cool caring parents. MY KID JUST FLUNKED OUT OF COLLEGE> HOW MANY MORE SIGNS DO THEY NEED? They're only 19; they knew my son when he was a clean cut, straight A, varsity athlete so they know how far he has fallen. And I digress. I didn't want to be part of the conversation today so I am not quite sure how it went down. I am overwrought and incredibly nauseous and so intensely HURT by and ANGRY about his manipulation. I knew I would end up hysterical and I just wasn't going to invest that emotion in him again. Plus my pcs were still asleep and I knew my presence would likely amp things up and I just didn't want to go there. difficult child knows just how to push my buttons so that it changes the dynamic. And I was chicken. There was no shouting, though I stayed far away from the conversation. (I sat in the laundry room and sewed up the holes in difficult child's gloves since I figured he would need them. And it kept my hands busy and I figured it was a decent last motherly act.) Apparently, H told difficult child that he needed to be in school and that the local CC was the only option available based on his suspension. difficult child maintained that he could go to the cc in the college town 5 hours away and live in his apartment. H reminded him "not part of the plan." difficult child turned the conversation and deflected it to to how this is all my fault, I spied, I snooped, I can't let him have his freedom, I want to control him blah blah blah, H tried to keep it on the topic of logic and "let's get you back on your feet"...and difficult child went into flee mode, ran upstairs and started packing. And H (wisely) let him. H went back upstairs to try to get thru to him unsuccessfully. And I locked myself in my closet and called my mom. Originally, difficult child told h that he was going to live with his best friend's older brother locally and get a job delivering court paperwork. About 40 minutes later, he told H he was going back to college town. Not sure which it is, I don't really care. He's completely out of touch with logic and reality. And I know it's drugs and I would guess it's more than just pot. And for now I just have to let it be and keep moving... [/QUOTE]
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