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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 434286" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Our school system actually sends you to court if you mis X days, even with excuses. It is one reason we pulled Jess out of 6th grade. The major one was that she was being groped, both upper and lower body, in the hallways during class changes. But when she was hit by a car right after the time change (backed into her while turning around in a driveway) and she couldn't walk even to the bathroom twenty feet away for four days and not much farther for another weeka fter that, and had had a bed virus where she puked for a week, they told me she had flunked the year. It was not even Halloween yet. But I know, for a fact, that at least ten kids in her grade played hooky with unexcused absences that were FAR more than hers and they passed because the school didn't want to deal with them another year. NO teacher would flunk them because they were seriosu problems. But Jess was well behaved, loved school, never got into trouble so she was going to be flunked. Not in this world, not my kid.</p><p></p><p>thank you's absences are excused at any number, with or with-o a note because it is in his 504. Here they carry as much weight as an IEP so they cannot keep him back for missing school. maybe some days he could go and handle things, but usually I know if he is faking. The signs of being overwhelmed are too clear and he cannot fake them - just stinks at it. I also know if he is sick because he is NOT a napper. If he sleeps past seven he is really sick - even being up in the night doesn't keep him sleeping past seven. If he takes a nap in the middle of the day he is truly very sick. </p><p></p><p>We had many issues with attendance in the middle school. It is the only one in town and kids from every elem go there. They actually had the nerve to tell me that the note J's doctor faxed in regarding her migraine came from our home. They sent a fax to the number it came from saying the KNEW it was not a real doctor's office, but was either in our home or in a business where we worked or paid someone to send it. The neuro was FURIOUS. His office mgr called and chewed a HUGE hole in them for questioning the veracity of the note. I know they did because the school sent me a letter telling me that real docs don't use words like veracity and that meant that we arranged someone to call then and be angry on the fake doctor's behalf. This got a notarized letter threatenin a libel/slander lawsuit for saying they were not a doctor and were lying about her migraines and epilepsy. They also used a bunch of other big words and said to get a dictionary and an attorney if they had doubts about this - either about the notary actually being a notary or the reality of being able to be sued for what they said about the doctor and me. I found out that it created a HUGE stink in the district because it was NOT sent to the principal but was delivered with signature from the superintendent only required. They would not take his secretary's signature even. The office at the elem school asked if it was about Jess - they could NOT believe that the middle school doubted that she was sick. They knew her and how out of character it was - and how I woudl NEVER do that.</p><p></p><p>It is hard to get them to school. I remember telling Wiz that I didn't care if he was dressed or in his undies, he WAS going to leave for school at the appropriate time. It wasn't easy but I made being home so miserable that he didn't want to be ehre if he was sick. Esp effective was cooking something he hated and playing music he loathed (country worked wonders, lol, so did the veggietales cd that we had.)</p><p></p><p>I hoep that tomorrow is a better day for both of you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 434286, member: 1233"] Our school system actually sends you to court if you mis X days, even with excuses. It is one reason we pulled Jess out of 6th grade. The major one was that she was being groped, both upper and lower body, in the hallways during class changes. But when she was hit by a car right after the time change (backed into her while turning around in a driveway) and she couldn't walk even to the bathroom twenty feet away for four days and not much farther for another weeka fter that, and had had a bed virus where she puked for a week, they told me she had flunked the year. It was not even Halloween yet. But I know, for a fact, that at least ten kids in her grade played hooky with unexcused absences that were FAR more than hers and they passed because the school didn't want to deal with them another year. NO teacher would flunk them because they were seriosu problems. But Jess was well behaved, loved school, never got into trouble so she was going to be flunked. Not in this world, not my kid. thank you's absences are excused at any number, with or with-o a note because it is in his 504. Here they carry as much weight as an IEP so they cannot keep him back for missing school. maybe some days he could go and handle things, but usually I know if he is faking. The signs of being overwhelmed are too clear and he cannot fake them - just stinks at it. I also know if he is sick because he is NOT a napper. If he sleeps past seven he is really sick - even being up in the night doesn't keep him sleeping past seven. If he takes a nap in the middle of the day he is truly very sick. We had many issues with attendance in the middle school. It is the only one in town and kids from every elem go there. They actually had the nerve to tell me that the note J's doctor faxed in regarding her migraine came from our home. They sent a fax to the number it came from saying the KNEW it was not a real doctor's office, but was either in our home or in a business where we worked or paid someone to send it. The neuro was FURIOUS. His office mgr called and chewed a HUGE hole in them for questioning the veracity of the note. I know they did because the school sent me a letter telling me that real docs don't use words like veracity and that meant that we arranged someone to call then and be angry on the fake doctor's behalf. This got a notarized letter threatenin a libel/slander lawsuit for saying they were not a doctor and were lying about her migraines and epilepsy. They also used a bunch of other big words and said to get a dictionary and an attorney if they had doubts about this - either about the notary actually being a notary or the reality of being able to be sued for what they said about the doctor and me. I found out that it created a HUGE stink in the district because it was NOT sent to the principal but was delivered with signature from the superintendent only required. They would not take his secretary's signature even. The office at the elem school asked if it was about Jess - they could NOT believe that the middle school doubted that she was sick. They knew her and how out of character it was - and how I woudl NEVER do that. It is hard to get them to school. I remember telling Wiz that I didn't care if he was dressed or in his undies, he WAS going to leave for school at the appropriate time. It wasn't easy but I made being home so miserable that he didn't want to be ehre if he was sick. Esp effective was cooking something he hated and playing music he loathed (country worked wonders, lol, so did the veggietales cd that we had.) I hoep that tomorrow is a better day for both of you. [/QUOTE]
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