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<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 193016" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>Sending hugs Janet. </p><p></p><p>Everyone is right. Don't beat yourself up. And if (when) you do apologize, apologize for the delivery and NOT the content. He went waaaay over a line there and you had every right to go off on him for it. </p><p></p><p>As for him being in jail....no one wants their child or loved one to be there but you know what? HE did this. Will this be a wake up call for him? Who knows. But....whatever happens, it's all on HIM. Nothing till this point has stopped him from stealing, lying, etc. and this is his consequence. He knew the possibility was there and if he refused to believe it would actually happen, that's his problem. When you took him to jail the other day and he was crying, was he crying because he was sorry about all that he's done? NO! He was sorry because it finally caught up to him and he's being put someplace that he doesn't want to be. Not to sound coldhearted but too bad, so sad. </p><p></p><p>I won't tell you to not worry because I know you will....anyone would. BUT....use this time. You have a chance to live a normal life now. No locking things up within your own home, no altering when/how/where you do things because of HIS restrictions or temptations, enjoy YOUR home again. </p><p></p><p>Not even CLOSE to being even remotely the same but.....I can't wait for the day that difficult child moves out. I will constantly worry about whether or not he's taking his medications or eating right, staying out of trouble, keeping his mouth shut in situations that could get his arse kicked....all of that. But I will enjoy having my home and my life back. I will no longer have to lock things up in my own house or hide things that I want to keep. I will be able to have conversations with my husband anytime or anyplace I want without having someone poke his nose into it or get mad because he "knows" we're talking about him when usually we're not. I won't have to worry about if something will turn up missing because I forgot and left it out. </p><p></p><p>Enjoy YOUR home, YOUR life, YOUR husband and your grandkids. Enjoy the PEACE.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 193016, member: 2459"] Sending hugs Janet. Everyone is right. Don't beat yourself up. And if (when) you do apologize, apologize for the delivery and NOT the content. He went waaaay over a line there and you had every right to go off on him for it. As for him being in jail....no one wants their child or loved one to be there but you know what? HE did this. Will this be a wake up call for him? Who knows. But....whatever happens, it's all on HIM. Nothing till this point has stopped him from stealing, lying, etc. and this is his consequence. He knew the possibility was there and if he refused to believe it would actually happen, that's his problem. When you took him to jail the other day and he was crying, was he crying because he was sorry about all that he's done? NO! He was sorry because it finally caught up to him and he's being put someplace that he doesn't want to be. Not to sound coldhearted but too bad, so sad. I won't tell you to not worry because I know you will....anyone would. BUT....use this time. You have a chance to live a normal life now. No locking things up within your own home, no altering when/how/where you do things because of HIS restrictions or temptations, enjoy YOUR home again. Not even CLOSE to being even remotely the same but.....I can't wait for the day that difficult child moves out. I will constantly worry about whether or not he's taking his medications or eating right, staying out of trouble, keeping his mouth shut in situations that could get his arse kicked....all of that. But I will enjoy having my home and my life back. I will no longer have to lock things up in my own house or hide things that I want to keep. I will be able to have conversations with my husband anytime or anyplace I want without having someone poke his nose into it or get mad because he "knows" we're talking about him when usually we're not. I won't have to worry about if something will turn up missing because I forgot and left it out. Enjoy YOUR home, YOUR life, YOUR husband and your grandkids. Enjoy the PEACE. [/QUOTE]
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