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Hey, Cedar, or anyone interested in FOO (Family of Origin) issues. Cedar, WHY NOW???
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 657753" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Well, if the person took it to her grave, she would not have been able to use it to hurt someone else with.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes.</p><p></p><p>Though I still say (for me, for my mother and me) that my mother lies routinely and was lying about this, too. It is too exquisitely designed to hurt, to break a child's spirit. Additionally my mother, oddly enough, never found occasion to remind her adult children of the abortions that might have been.</p><p></p><p>Because we were no longer children. And we could walk away.</p><p></p><p>And then there would be no more spirit-breaking games for the mother to play.</p><p></p><p>Though in my family, we will still go through the reaching out from the grave part. But now I know that is coming.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for sharing something so hurtful with me, SWOT. I am stronger, better prepared, because of it.</p><p></p><p>Somehow, we expect that when someone dies they see with integrity. That is the vulnerability. Understanding from our own hearts, knowing everything we have gone through with our own children, we believe, right to the core of us, that our mothers could not have meant what they said, and would take away the evil things that they did to us if they could.</p><p></p><p>But that is not true, for us.</p><p></p><p>ouch</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I am getting the truth of it. Still stumbling around a little.</p><p></p><p>Gone Girl is about sociopathy.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 657753, member: 17461"] Well, if the person took it to her grave, she would not have been able to use it to hurt someone else with. Yes. Though I still say (for me, for my mother and me) that my mother lies routinely and was lying about this, too. It is too exquisitely designed to hurt, to break a child's spirit. Additionally my mother, oddly enough, never found occasion to remind her adult children of the abortions that might have been. Because we were no longer children. And we could walk away. And then there would be no more spirit-breaking games for the mother to play. Though in my family, we will still go through the reaching out from the grave part. But now I know that is coming. Thank you for sharing something so hurtful with me, SWOT. I am stronger, better prepared, because of it. Somehow, we expect that when someone dies they see with integrity. That is the vulnerability. Understanding from our own hearts, knowing everything we have gone through with our own children, we believe, right to the core of us, that our mothers could not have meant what they said, and would take away the evil things that they did to us if they could. But that is not true, for us. ouch I am getting the truth of it. Still stumbling around a little. Gone Girl is about sociopathy. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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