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Hey, Cedar, or anyone interested in FOO (Family of Origin) issues. Cedar, WHY NOW???
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 657795" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>It is extremely common. And the golden children most often want to think their mothers were good people so they say "it wasn't that bad" or "it was his fault." I don't know that it's worse. Just that if it had happened to them too they most certainly would not be singing her praises.</p><p></p><p>They need one kid to scapegoat and another to exalt. From the tons of stuff I've read, obviously the scapegoat and the Golden Child rarely get along or see eye to eye. Mother is very important to the Golden Child.</p><p></p><p>Yet the scapegoat is often the strongest. I don't know Thing 1 enough to know if I am the strongest. I am stronger than Thing 2. My life choices alone, and the willingness to get help when it was needed, show that. I could not have lived with some of the choices made by Thing 2. I have not and will not list them all. It is as if all of her decisions were all about her own well being, taking nothing else into account. I doubt Thing 1 is aware of all her choices, but that is between the two strangers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 657795, member: 1550"] It is extremely common. And the golden children most often want to think their mothers were good people so they say "it wasn't that bad" or "it was his fault." I don't know that it's worse. Just that if it had happened to them too they most certainly would not be singing her praises. They need one kid to scapegoat and another to exalt. From the tons of stuff I've read, obviously the scapegoat and the Golden Child rarely get along or see eye to eye. Mother is very important to the Golden Child. Yet the scapegoat is often the strongest. I don't know Thing 1 enough to know if I am the strongest. I am stronger than Thing 2. My life choices alone, and the willingness to get help when it was needed, show that. I could not have lived with some of the choices made by Thing 2. I have not and will not list them all. It is as if all of her decisions were all about her own well being, taking nothing else into account. I doubt Thing 1 is aware of all her choices, but that is between the two strangers. [/QUOTE]
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